My husband drinks and emotionally abused me, then he got drunk and cheated with my sister. WHAT DO i DO?

Sorry but your husband gets no more chances. It is bad enough that he would have sex with another woman but to have sex with your sister? That is beyond disgusting. File for divorce based on your husband's adultery and if possible, name your sister as co-respondent (divorce records are public). And of course, tell all your family what your sister did, they should know because if she has such poor judgment with you, she may with their spouses too. Hopefully you aren't ever going to talk to your tramp of a sister ever again. Take care.

Go down your local law inforcement and file a order of protection against him and forget this bumm. He has did all that to you and it only gets worst once a woman beater allways one. Its guys out there that know how to treat a women. A lot of churches have singlels nite so you may check it out. I had 5 sisters and 2 of them had this kind of man but they also had me and I never fought with them or any other women and sex is supposed to be where each of you can show each other the deepist love that both of you have for each other and it is not done in 2 minutes.You don't have to settle for a man like this.I hope everthing works out your way and hold your head up I can tell you are a very good person.

Do not take this man back and lose the sister. He's an abusive alcoholic who is not going to change. File for a divorce and ask for custody and child support. You may be entitled to some years of spousal support as well. You have tolerated more than most women would. Time to give up on him.

You need to at least split because people who are subject to physical abuse never leave the relationship, thinking it is their fault or that things will get better but this is not how ANYONE should be treated. Do not put yourself in this position as it could get worse... what happens when it does? Will he start abusing your children? Im not sure on your childrens relationship with their father but you need to show him that this is NOT acceptable or he will continue. It is up to you but personally I think it disgraceful that any 'husband' should act that way...

dont ever feel guilty hes doing a maniplulating trick,if he can do that with your sister he will do it with a whore,well sorry to be harsh but anyone thats sleeps with a marrid man is a whore anyway ,i dont hav any respect for homewreckers,..dont ever acknowledge your sister again and dont dare let them use drink as an excuse,lowest of the low get rid .i know the pain is unbearible but trust me ,you dont want to go through it again in a few months.what they have done is sick..and ill tell u now the violance will get worse if u dont end it now.it will take a while and the pain will b there mornin noan and nightbut when its gone you will no you done right thing.,but you dont want that pain all year round for the rest of your life do you.i hope her husband gave him what for and i think she deserves the same

Sorry that all of this happened to you. I would suggest definitely kicking him out, and ending the relationship. If your sister was raped by this freak you must also file a report with the police. You must have reported the incidents where he abused you physically to police, if not then try to do them promptly next time they happen.

Do not let him push you around. And you should not feel guilty for things that others commit. You are not to blame for his actions.

the only thing you are guilty of is wasting your life with this man. if you can't leave him for yourself at least leave him for your children. they deserve better. how can you respect yourself when you take a man back who has cheated on you with your own sister?! honey you deserve better than that. don't let your attachment to this man control you. there are better men out there. there are real men who won't use and abuse you. your man is not going to change. your children shouldnt be subjected to a man like this. please get out of this destructive relationship before it destroys not only, but your children as well.

Zeesh--who mentioned rape?? Look at the additional details the asker supplied yeah!?! To the asker--do you see how many thumbs up are here? Does that tell you something? GOOD--that's all you need to know--you know what to do next! Zero tolerance towards ALL cheating bath scum.

Married 16 years + 3 children together + Alcoholic + Emotionally abusive + Physically abusive + Tried to kill you + HAD SEX WITH YOUR SISTER....do I need to any more math for you? What does he have to do for you to leave him?

You leave him. The guy is a loser, regardless if he is your husband.

He's an alcoholic, he will always be an alcoholic. Now he is using it as an excuse to sleep around. Time to wake up and get a divorce. He doesn't care about you, otherwise he wouldn't have slept with your sister and blamed it on alcohol.