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anyone been a surrogate?

hi ladies just curious if any of you have been a surrogate for a couple (host not straight meaning not your egg just hosting the pregnancy) here in the uk? if so how did you meet? how were the financials sorted? what was it like? pros? cons?

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im aware you wont get a fee in the uk but your expenses are covered. what expenses can you realistically ask for? can you stop work and get reimbursed for lost earnings? what cost would it be to the parents on average excluding the ivf etc

emotionally what is it like to give up the baby at the end? does it help to know that the baby is not genetically yours?

i have not finished my own family. i have my gorgeous daughter but i definitely want another baby but not yet.

please feel free to not answer this question if you are going to be rude. only useful answers please

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  • 1 decade ago
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    I haven't. I choose not to wh*re my lady bits out to others.

  • 1 decade ago

    I haven't been a surrogate but am posting some info that will be of interest to you.

    http://www.hfea.gov.uk/fertility-treatment-options...

    How does surrogacy work?

    Full surrogacy (also known as Host or Gestational) - Full surrogacy involves the implantation of an embryo created using either:

    * the eggs and sperm of the intended parents

    * a donated egg fertilised with sperm from the intended father

    * an embryo created using donor eggs and sperm.

    Partial surrogacy (also known Straight or Traditional) - Partial surrogacy involves sperm from the intended father and an egg from the surrogate. Here fertilisation is (usually) done by artificial insemination or intrauterine insemination (IUI).

    Payment issues

    Paying surrogate expenses- You are not allowed to pay for a surrogate in the UK – commercial surrogacy is illegal. However, the intended parents are responsible for the reasonable expenses of the surrogate (for example, clothes, travel expenses and loss of earnings).

    Extra expense may be incurred should the surrogate have twins or more.

    Clinic surrogacy fees - Fees to the clinic will depend on whether the arrangement involves insemination only or IVF procedures. The fees will also vary depending on which clinic is used and how many attempts you have.

    * In vitro fertilisation (IVF)

    You should ensure that you know the full costs involved before starting surrogacy treatment.

    Remember: commercial surrogacy is illegal in the UK – people thinking about surrogacy should be wary of agencies purporting to offer this service.

    http://www.hfea.gov.uk/1424.html

    The rights of the surrogate

    You should bear in mind that the surrogate has the legal right to keep the child, even if it is not genetically related to her.

    Surrogacy arrangements are not legally enforceable, even if a contract has been signed and the expenses of the surrogate have been paid.

    The surrogate will be the legal mother of the child unless or until parenthood is transferred to the intended mother through a parental order or adoption after the birth of the child. This is because, in law, the woman who gives birth is always treated as the mother.

    What if the surrogate mother changes her mind?

    The surrogate has the legal right to change her mind and keep the child, even when the baby she gave birth to is not genetically related to her. This is difficult for everyone concerned and that’s why it is vital that you trust each other and are clear about what is going to happen.

    Familiarise yourself with the wording of the Surrogacy Arrangements Act, 1985, or discuss its implications with your lawyer before proceeding.

  • Anonymous
    1 decade ago

    I have not, but I think it takes a strong women and it is a great thing. I have though of doing it but I right now me and my husband is still working on having other second baby, and then we are done and then maybe.

    Tina

  • 1 decade ago

    No. I haven't been one, but I think it's a wonderful thing to give birth to another ladies child! Many websites that you can probably Google? Will have information on how to price it and things like that. Your an angel!

  • 1 decade ago

    No. But if you want to be one, then I really don't recommend it...No money is worth it and if you're looking for one, then rethink your decision, would you really trust a woman to carry your child and hand it over to you?

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