In-law issues?? Help!!?

It sounds to me that you care too much of what they think. Stop complaining and just enjoy life with your little family. If they choose to not see your baby then thats there loss. If they do then good on them. You may be a real family person and that is probably why it hurts you alot but there really is nothing you can do about it apart from approaching them with your concern. If your willing to do that then go ahead. Gather them up and have a sit down with them. No point in complaining about it coz its not going to help. Solution is to tell them your concern. Whatever the outcome wether good or bad you will just have to deal with it. At the end of the day you still have the most important people in your life. Your husband and child. All the best.

Hate to tell you this, but my situation with my in-laws sounds so very familiar. Except it's been going on a lot longer and real damage has been done along the way.

I'd talk to my wife about these problems, and she had rose colored glasses. She couldn't understand. There would be a big family decision I'd be completely left out of, and when I'd say "Hey..." to my wife, she'd just say something like "Nobody intentionally insulted you," like I was being too sensitive.

After about 20 years of marriage, I became better at recognizing what was going on, but it didn't get any less aggravating. Then all of a sudden my wife had a falling out with her sister, who recruited her mother, who recruited the other sister, and her husband. In unison they stuck up their noses and let us know they weren't speaking to us.

That was about 2 1/2 years ago, and there hasn't been a civil word exchanged since. Once my wife's rose-colored glasses fell off, she said things like "Oh my god. I now I see what you've been talking about all these years. I didn't realize."

What I'm trying to say is it's your spouse who needs to deal with his parents, and it's often not a good bet it will happen.

I did, and still do, live next door to the Nose-In-The-Air Crowd. We have our family Christmas where we sit in our separate houses and talk about how much we hate the people who live next door. I'd try real hard to find a place to live that's not right next door or in the same house as your in-laws. It went fine for a long time, but when it went sour, it went real bad real quick.

Go see them. Gifts are just material things - show that you have a true interest in a relationship and aren't worried about STUFF. Doesn't matter how busy your life is - make time for what's important. If you don't go see them, then non verbally you are making them unimportant in your life. 30 mins away is not too far away to see someone. Make the effort in a good faith that they will come around and want a relationship.

get used to it. Daughters in law just can;t win.

Mine interfere ALL the time. We even separated for 2 months recentley.

Make a point of not discussing them. Not worth the upset.

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These are mean-spirited people. It is amazing that your husband isn't like them and you should be thankful for that. Don't start figuring out who spent what for whom. It is about kindness and attitudes. They are sorely deficient in those areas.

You should have told that nasty sister that they are always welcome at your house and you don't understand why they don't visit. Then leave it alone. Consider yourself lucky not to see these spiteful people often.

This is as short as possible?

I'd hate to read the longer version.