Any teenagers who are adopted?

Im a long way from being a teenager, but I remember what it was like. What you are going through is pretty much the same for most adoptees.......to a certain extent its the typical teen "the grass is always greener" thing.... Yes, I did want to meet my first parents, that started around 14 - 15 and I actively started searching when I was 18, I was reunited with my first mother and extended family when I was 34....unfortunately my first mum passed away 3 years after reunion but it was wonderful to finally have all of my questions answered. Im happy to chat with you, youre welcome to email me on: mini.mouse.68@hotmail.com

Im more than happy to share the whole adoption story thing if thats what you want/need, Im sure that you will find lots of other adoptees on here are happy to do the same, but I would rather not do so on a public forum. Unfortunately it only gives those who choose to have a rainbow outlook on adoption another reason to slam us......apparently we are supposed to take adoption with joy and gratitude....personally Im getting a bit sick of being ranted at by those who have never had to live this life that is forced on us.

Feel free to ask all the questions that you like, it doesnt matter how you word it, I will get what you mean, I have a teenage daughter myself....I get teenage speak.

Well im 14 and i have a twin sis. But im so glad we were adopted when we were babies together and by are grandparents but the whole thing about having older parents and stuff is kinda wierd and stuff…but are mom was mentally ill and comitted suicide by getting hit by a train and are dad was never part of the picture so we have other siblings and well i guess all i have to say is my life is kinda messed up but i love it in a way! So i would like to here your story to so yup and i do feel different and so does my sister but thats just life i guess…=)

hey my name is rachael. im 15 and got addopted when i was 14. i went into foster care when i was 11. my dad was very abusive mt me my older and younger brother and mom and little sister. he was an alcoholic and on drugs and we were very poor. so my older brother and i ran away and got put in foster care. i know what your going through. i wonder every day of my liffe what would it of been like if i wasnt adopted. i wouldnt be where i am now. i knew my parents though. i knew my whole family. its still very hard for me to even talk to them over the phone. i used to overthink everything about it all the time but now i just look at it as im here. i am adopted. and theres a reason for it. so theres no real reason to wonder what my life would of been when im happy just the way i am and where i am

I'm not a teenager, but I've been one. :)

I hate that I got abandoned, and I hate that I grew up living a lie.

I met my bfam. in 2009, and have reassuringly calm relationships with most of them. I also had P.T.S.D. reactions, in which my emotional maturity dropped back into abandoned baby mode.

Go take a nose over at http://www.adultadoptees.org/forum/ - you could find it very useful.

I had about the same attitude about it and questions you have from what I can gauge from this short question.

I met her when I was 13 and everything was just peachy keen. I really had not grasped everything that comes along with adoption. I hurt from it, I knew I 'missed' something in my life, I was always the outcast felt different, I think you know what I am saying. I was really not able to fully let it hit me til I had my first child. I got pregnant at 18, the same age my bmom did with me. I am now 20 and I have been through a roller-coaster of emotions since then. It was absolutely mind-boggling to me how a mother could look at their child after birth and decide not to keep them. I know people say 'No money, no dad in the picture, better life' what-have-you. Crock of poop if you ask me. I was homeless, on drugs, no job, no car when I found out I was pregnant. I kept my son. I rent my own house now, I work part time, I go to college full time, my husband (who was not in the picture during the first part of my pregnancy cause he was married & going through a divorce!) works, and we have our son. If I could get myself straightened out then anyone else can. Me being 18 when I had my son, my bmom being 19 when she had me (pregnant by a married man as well) and gave me away after 8 MONTHS of parenting blew my mind. Made me hate her because her giving me up was NOT the best for me, it was the best for her. I haven't seen or spoken to her in over two years. I miss all the time and I think about her 1000 times a day. I blame myself for how she is, because I know she hurts somewhere deep down from me being adopted. I met my family, and I had so many questions answered & was very happy to see them, but that came along with a deep sense of guilt and anger. Mindfcuk!

I was diagnosed Bi-Polar II not too long ago, that had been misdiagnosed for YEARS as just plain ol' depression. I now know I had symptoms of it starting around 16 that was chalked up to me being a teen. I have OCD that centers around abandonment and loss. Mainly germs btw EX:losing my son to some rare crazy bacterial infection cause I don't sanitize his sippy 10 times a day. Loopy yeah, but that's it. It use to be just an anxiety of losing someone or being separated but child birth launched it into full time OCD. I can tell you my stressors that triggered these two things were 90% because of me being adopted. Whoever wants to discredit that can bite my ***.I have major trust & control issues that have greatly improved with me getting a little older.I no longer have a freaking cow when my husband leaves thinking he's secretly leaving me for his other non-existant lady.

The pain I feel from my adoption most likely will never go away. I have been in therapy before, I have been on medicine, and everything else can be helped and controlled aside from this pain from being adopted. It's like this very deep emotional wound that will never close because I will never have closure on it. Even if my bmom admitted to me she was selfish & did wrong by me wouldn't fix it. It happened, it's awful, and there's nothing I can do about it to make it better. I can hide it, cover it, but it won't go away.

Alot of adoptees experience what your describing through varying degrees. I was adopted as an infant through an agency (right before CPS stepped in) which is much different than foster care adoption.