will i be able to forgive my dad one day?

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ok this is gunna be long 
well my parents have been married for like 15 yrs or sumthin like that nd my dad does not ever get my mom gifts for her bday valentines christmas etc.. nd everytime i ask him hes like well go get it ur own and so thats y i feel bad for my mom also my dad drinks a lot nd when i was younger he would hit my mom and hurt her but i was in the middle nd i told him to stop nd i was crying when this happened then when i was in 2nd grade while i was taking communion lessons that after the class this women that was my dad's friends niece she was flirting with him nd he would buy her stuff nd nothin for my mom he would just yell nd try to hurt her but i would get in the middle...anyway my dad nd this women were really close nd stuff that like if she tried to kiss my cheek i didnt want her too nd my dad would yell at me nd ignore me the whole time nd be with that slut...also 5 yrs ago when i was going to mexico with my mom  my dad was so drunk that he dropped plates nd cups on purpose nd he grabbed my moms neck nd started choking her nd he hit her on her head nd she had a big bruise on her head also he threatened he was going to kill my mom nd he was going to beat me up ....nd my dad drinks a lot nd hes an alcholic nd thats y hes like this but having to remember all of this stuff idk if ill forgive him but my dad was everything to me nd i loved him so much but then all of a sudden he changed nd now last week we got into a fight nd i told my dad that i hated him nd he said to me that well im gunna forgot i have a daughter bc now my daughter died nd u will forgot that u have a dad nd that hurt so much bc idk y he changed he also never wants to celebrate the holidays all bc hes always tired nd im sick nd tried of him nd how he is..i mean i dont hate him i hate how he drinks nd now hes not even talkin to me idk y he gives me dirty looks nd he spoke with my mom nd she told him everything then she said that he was gunna to talk to me but he never did i hope my parents divorced i mean they will but i just hope this year bc now i started the year off bad nd this affects me and my school work bc i have to do good in school
p.s what should i do? do u think maybe ill forgive him one day nd also should my mom nd i get an order of protection from him? nd if i do get one do u think he will seek help bc i kno that he wont wanna talk to me anymore ? idk if he even loves me anymore bc idk if i do nd my parents dont even love each other nd my dad isnt understandable nd he doesnt help at all if my mom wants to do stuff hes always thinkin negative. i wish my dad was diff nd i wish my life was diff 2....pleez help!!!

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

My mom qot married to my dad bout 16 years aqo. she was at work when he used to hit me and my brothers . when she finally decided to quit her job my dad started to hate her . she realized what an asshole my dad was he started to beat her to . every sinqle day. and i didn't want my mom to be hurt like that. he qot remarried behind her back and qave my mom absolutely nothinq at all. then one day the biqqest fiqht happened and my mom kicked him out of the house. it has been 3 years . she has an order of protection. but she is still not able to divorce him. he says the only way he will divorce her is if he qives us 3 to him. and if we qo to him our life would be over because he will have us married on the spot. (we are a Pakistani family but we were all born in america ) . i think you should tell your mom to qet a divorce . i think she deserves better. as for you its up to you if you forqive him or not. remember you only have one mother. and if she stands by you and loves you with all her heart like my mom does then you would want her to be happy.

? · Answer

that's no longer basic. it is not basic to forgive in case you have been wronged - fairly by somebody you're meant to believe. the element approximately forgiveness, regardless of the incontrovertible fact that, is that by no longer forgiving them, you are the only that suffers. You carry the anger, harm, resentment alongside with you. in the event that they have been fairly beating you as a new child, do you think of they care which you at the instant are not forgiving them now? maximum no longer particularly - likely they are going alongside with their lives and not thinking two times approximately it - together as you nevertheless carry all the harm. Forgiveness releases you from the harm. Forgive them - nicely known the harm and the soreness, and then come to words with the reality that it fairly is interior the previous, you may no longer replace it - yet you may replace who you're - and be a greater suitable guy or woman simply by fact of it. you may refuse to permit their undesirable habit convey you down. Be stable and take care!

Anonymous · Answer

When/if you're ever a parent, you can learn from this. You will probably be able to forgive him someday, because you can't let it hold back your whole life.
About you and your mom, you might want to get some help.

? · Answer

I personally would never forgive my dad for that..
It really depends on what  kind of person you are.
I would give it time, maybe he will realize he has a problem, & get help. 
Only time can tell, but i wish you the best !

Anonymous · Answer

its all about the alcohol.
  let their fights be between them, its good you defend your mom but chill out,
be a kid.
 just be quiet and as long as he doesn't hit her now let her make the decisions
yeah he loves you but he is an addict, to booze.

cork · Answer

Lets hope with God's help you will overcome.

Anonymous · Answer

Probably not, you will be a psycho and hate everyone.

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