Child-support and Alimony from overseas?

Backbround first- My husband and I have been living together since 2001, we've been married since 2004. We have 2 children together ages 5 and 6. when we met I was in college, but (stupid move) I dropped out and got a full-time job so he could go to college full-time and not have to work. We got married had our first child, I still continued to work full-time because he was still in school full-time and we needed the health insurance. He graduated just before our second child was born. At this time I quit working and he became the breadwinner while I was a stay at home mom with 2 babies to take care of. Fast forward to now- 3 months ago he took an incredible job in Qatar (for those who don't know it is over in the middle east, but a very safe country, no where near the war zone). He is the lead project manager for an Italian construction firm. The job came with great perks: his entire income is tax free, his living accomodations are free (a 5 bedroom, 5 bathroom, 3500 sq. ft villa with a live in maid/nanny), his vehicle is provided for him. Basically his only expense is food. The children and I were supposed to move over there in May, that's why the villa is so big and we have a maid/nany. His company will be paying our childrens tuition over there at The American School of Doha to the tune of $35,000 US. He has been getting more and more distant in the past couple of weeks and just last week hit me with the news that he wants a divorce. He wants me to send the kids over to him, since he has a great job and nanny therefore can take better care of them than I can (these are his words of course). He wants me to remain in the US and get a job and take care of myself, he so graciously will not ask me for child-support! I will NOT send my children over to him, he is out of his mind! My question is, Do I have any recourse? What can I legally do? Can I get child-support? Can I get spousal support considering I've been a stay at home mom and really have no skills and have no education (besides 2 years of college). Also, I don't want to go get a full-time job, I'm not lazy, it's just that my kids are so young, I've been home with them since they were born, my youngest is still in pre-school and gets out at 10:45 am, what kind of job could work around those hours?? I'm completely lost here, don't even know where to begin...any advice would be helpful. Thankyou- Lost & Alone in the US