how to get to know her? i'd appreciate good advice, specially a girls point of view?

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there's this girl that lives 3 doors away from my house and I'm extremely interested in her, but shes the kind of girl that doesnt go out at all.. appart from going to school "kinda like me", but the point is, I was just wondering if anyone had any good piece of advice on how a shy guy can possibily approach a shy and quiet type of girl without making her feel umconfrotable? dont say something like "oh just go pass her and say hello" because I find it odd to just go up to her and say hello.. it sounds rly weird and i dont want to make her umconfortable by doing so, i'd like to do something more lets say "indirect"

Update:

she goes to a girl's school and I go to college, we take the same bus every monday and thursday because I get in college at 9am so it kinda fits with her timetable aswell, i dont think she has much friends because she never goes out at all appart from going school.

Leah · Accepted Answer

When you are on the bus with her, ask her a question, any question that anyone could ask anybody and let that turn into a conversation.. "Do you know if this bus goes to any stops near..."  or  "Do you know how to get to.." Just something simple. After that start a conversation with her.. mention something like "I feel like you look very familiar, do you happen to live on...?" 

Something like -

"Do you know how to get to the blah blah store?"
"Um, yes its.. -or- no, im not sure"
"Thanks, I was hoping to get there to buy the blah blah, do you like blah blah?"
and badda bing badda boom, conversation. lol

then hopefully that will crack the shell :)

Im a shy girl too and as a shy girl, we love getting attention from people who will break the ice for us :) 
Just go for it!

Seandra Smith · Answer

Finally, someone else that thinks the direct "hello" is awkward! 
But anyway, since you take the same bus, you could casually just sit next to her and try to start a conversation. Or say something like "Hi, I see you around sometimes and you like a very interesting person to get to know", okay that sounds creepy, but something along those lines. Or pay for her bus ride, if it costs anything. Don't over think it or else everything suggestion will sound weird. Try to be natural and be yourself! I hope I was a little bit of help! Good Luck =) xx

Vexxillo · Answer

Just be careful with shy girls.  Last time I kicked it to a shy girl she was so boring and didn't wanna go out, and showed signs of a real hermit.  Not fun.  But, if you wanna try, you just have to say something and introduce yourself when you are close to her.  There is no other way to do it.  Use an opener that is common ground.  The cold, snow, etc.

Anonymous · Answer

Well wait one day until the bus you ride is really full, then ask if you can sit with her?

Btrew. · Answer

when you two are on the bus try sitting close to her and make neutral small talk. if she drops something pick it up for her. Sweetness is always very attractive! :) goodluck.

A R · Answer

shy girls will take a while to come out of the shell if u no wat i mean be supportive compliment her and encourage her  but if u dont want 2 be direct talk 2 her online or try and get her number

Anonymous · Answer

Unless you GROW A PAIR, and ask the girl out... there's no hope for either of you.

faithreleasedjoy · Answer

I would say to compliment her on something she is wearing and then maybe talk about the weather, current events, or recently released movies.





BTW. make sure she's legal ;)

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