My wife keeps complaining.?

Wow, you've just described my own mother.

In all my 26 years of life, i don't remember having a good positive moment or experience with my mother.

My father seconds this. He's even told me she's always been a pessimist. Everything hurts all the time, she is always sick, she is making up all these problems that don't even exist and when my father confronts her about it that we don't have those problems, she says "well, we could...".

Both my parents are 55 and my father is miserable because he doesn't have a partner in life. My mother is like a bad rash that wont go away. My father works really hard and makes a good living. If he makes $150K, she'll complain that its not enough. If he brings home more, she'll say it could be a bit more.

Don't be miserable.

You are only 34. Encourage her to learn some ways to have a more positive outlook on life. She needs to see life and her current circumstances as "glass half full".

You are absolutely right. You really are in the best country in the world. The kids are healthy and you've gotta roof over your head. You couldn't ask for more.

I think its the fact that your life is comfortable and your wife has never faced hunger, infidelity, no money, sick kids problems so she is ungrateful.

My mother is 55 as of yesterday and the woman will die complaining. She will never be truly happy or satisfied.

I don't call her anymore because she brings me down. She is so negative about everything and if I tell her something great that happens to me, she turns it around into something really horrible. The woman is a pro.

You can talk to her about and if she doesn't listen, she needs to see a professional.

She's not crazy or anything, however professionals such as life coaches or simple psychologists can teach her tools on how to look at life as glass half full.

You know whats even worse about my own mother?

She has totally poisoned my older sister and now my older sister has the same outlook on life like my mom.

Luckily I was more stubborn and didn't care to listen to her when I was younger. I moved out young when I got married so she didn't have a chance to poison my own mind.

My younger brother almost fell into her trap of pessimism. Luckily he followed my foot steps and learned to tell her to shut the eff up when she starts her complaining.

So please stay ultra positive around your kids. They will learn these behaviors from her and that will really handicap them for life. When you're a pessimist like your wife and my mother, you miss great opportunities in life because of the negativity that nothing good can happen. You learn to be so miserable and that being happy is for others.

Don't let her poison your kids.

If she refuses help, you can either stick it out and be like my dad who never talks to my mom anymore. The guy literally wont talk because everything he says she shuts it down with her attitude.

Talk to her and see if she wants to change. She needs to change.

People in Chile make 1/100th of what an average American makes yet they are rated to be the happiest people in the world.

When abuse is from a female people don't care. It doesn't have to be physical, or even particularly emotional to be abuse from the female. Incessant complaining and making the guy feel like he can never provide is enough to qualify as abuse. Abuse from a woman is like a slow growing melanoma that eats you alive. you don't know it's there until life has passed you by.

My wife complains all the time constantly shoving me from task to task, telling me I should follow my dreams and have ambition. (As long as that dream meets her approval..) I've waited on her for 5 years like a servant. She complains about money even though she spent, 100% of all the income on things she wanted and weren't needed. I cost her Zero and all I ever hear is she's miserable and she says it's just to challenge me to do better for her. I tried to justify her abuse simply because she constantly throws in my face that she makes double the income I do. She nags me that I should open a business even though I did a housing project with my bare hands almost alone and put more money in her account than she ever had at once.

I live in fear and am a nervous wreck when I know she's going to call or come home. And the sad thing is I loved her.

She demands a baby and we have been trying to have one. Until I found her internet chat and discovered she's been having an affair on me from the beginning of our relationship.

I have reason to believe her and the guy are conspiring to get a baby out of me so I can pay child support when she leaves. because that's how the system works in the USA.

I did the smartest thing I have ever done recently... I didn't get her pregnant and am filing for divorce. It still hurts and I am in pain like never before. I know your post is 3 years old, I just hope someone reads it. I hope your marriage ended up better than mine. I just understand the symptoms in yours.

It seems like she will never be happy she will always find something to be complaining about. U dont need that from anyone life is too short to be complaining over every little thing. She is oviously not very happy with herself. Its better if u have a serious talk with her and find out what the problem is tell her if it does not change its time to end it.Yiou need to be happy in a relationship not miserable.

Buy a small tape recorder and tape record her complaining..do this for about a week, and then go try to talk to her again. Tell her here, want you to listen to this..really listen. This is driving me nuts!! You are driving me nuts! You need to get a grip on this and soon, because I cannot take much more of this, and if you cannot stop, I'm gonna leave. I love you, and I want to have a life with you, but your contant complaining is driving me right out that door. Do you understand?? Think hard about what I told you, because I am not playing here...

Tell her about herself. "You complain about everything! Can't you be happy about anything? Our kids are healthy. You wake up in the best country in the world. The bills are paid."

Normally I don't view bitching as enough of a reason to get a divorce, but having been through a relationship where NOTHING I did was EVER good enough, and where he kept changing his standards so there was no way possible for me to ever reach them, I can definitely sympathize with you.

If you can do it without her biting your head off, suggest marriage counseling. If she doesn't want to go, go alone. Whether the counselor tells you to work on things, or they tell you that you'd be better off without her, at least you'll know you tried your best.

i'd talk to her.. tell her how her how it makes you feel. thers obviously something going on thats making her act that way. instead of dodging her and avoiding her, do some nice things for her. find a friend or family memeber to babysit and take her out on a romantic date. she also kinda sounds like she might be semi depressed. she wasnt like this the last 30+yrs so something has changed to change her. she can change back. its up to you to decide how long and how hard you wanna work/put in to help her out.

She may not be happy and it could be a chemical in-balance which she could get meds for and be happy. Why would you want to go through life unhappy? If you think you don;t like hearing it how would you like to be in her head? You should say that you love her very much and you want her to be happy then ask her what you could do that would seriously make her happy right now. Like I said this could be a larger problem that only therapy could help, we all go through times when we don't feel good about ourselves she may be crying out to the only one she trust to help and he thinks she's a nag.

Women do tend to complain a lot. Just as Chris Rock. He addresses this very issue. Lol. http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=M902ZJHzaLE Perhaps counseling?

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=b1doXrBKGRM

LoL That Was A Joke :)

You Should Try To Confort Her, Or If You Cant Even Do That What Is Keeping Your Marriage Alive?