how do you forget someone that you hurt ages ago?

This person may not even be thinking about what you did.

They also think that what you did was the folly of youth.

If it wasn't for the fact you didn't want to upset the marriage I would send an easter or Christmas card with words like 'I will always remember how kind you were' or tell other people who know this person and they will pass it on.

In time you won't dwell on this so much if you think that people do far worse to other people and don't give it a moments thought.

In a situation like this I believe the best approach would be to write them a letter. They're likely to discard it, but at the same time they'll be curious about its content. You're trying to apologize; an apology always does well (at least to yourself for expressing it sincerely; it depends on how the 'offended' person looks at it).

So, personal or direct approach I think wouldn't be the best way to go about it.

And forgetting this person, I think that'll only be possible once you express the apology thing so that you can get that off your mind, along with that person. Not having expressed your apology is giving you a sense ot owe, like you have something pending with that person.

Thats a tricky one, see usually I would say "Out of sight, out of mind" but with your problem I see how you want to contact them. Though talking to them and apologizing might seem like the right thing to do, if you just leave it you won't be risking another problem, just like you said

"to contact this person would only cause trouble with their marriage and mine..."

To forget someone you hurt ages ago- Stop worrying about whether to apologize or not, when you do you are brought back to the situation and that doesn't help you 'forget' that person. Honestly you are never going to forget but to ease some of the stress just don't think about it.

Idk I hope that helped....

Hello Buddy ...

If you really wanna forget the person that hurt you ages ago ...

I have gotta good Method for you .. It really works out well for most of the People and it very well worked out for me once ..

So here you go ..

Take all the Things that you got from that person Like Greeting card ,Gifts and Include her photos (Thats a Must) ... Just take all the Photos you've got of hers.... Put all together and just burn t in Front of your eyes .. The pain in you will all be gone and thoughts will erase away from your mind as you see them getting Burnt .....

You see sometimes such little things What we do really makes us feel more Better ....So fot it ... It works out well .. Lemme Know the Results ...

So these things will erase the Person off your mind whom you really wanna Forget ...

I surely Hope my method will Help and Give atleast 80% Satisfaction if not 100% ...

Good Luck ..

Regards ,

Neo

i agree write him a letter. when it says what u want it to say send it. forgive yourself as u probably won't hear back from him. life goes on i think u r making a bigger deal of this than it has to be

this may sound stupid, but you simply just do it.

just like that. stop thinking about it. it's past, nothing more