Why are people so rude?

Question

I used to sit in the open plan area of my office and I was friends with this one woman who sat next to me. We'd chat, go on our smoke breaks together, etc. My boss wanted his team of people to sit in a closed office as we do very intense work and we need the peace and quiet. Now this woman that I was friends with has taken this as a personal insult and refuses to even acknowledge me in the office! She also has a lot of issues with other staff members, lots of people have complained about her attitude. I was her friend because we have a few things in common and I never understood why she wasn't liked. Now she's just downright rude to me and actually turns away from me when she sees me and tries to avoid me when we're crossing paths in the office.

My question is: How do I handle this woman? Do I treat her the same way she's treating me and ignore her? Or do I remain polite and greet her when I see her and continue being snubbed?

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

My mother used to have this saying she would use all the time "Kill them with kindness" if you just continue being sweet and nice always great her and sign her birthday card when it goes round the office or whatever else, not only will this show you as the bigger person to everyone in the office and stop you from sinking to her level, it will also make her feel guilty and it;s something she will remember when she gets over what ever funk she's in. Don't go out of your way to help her but always always be nice and polite.

P. W · Answer

I suspect that the problem is your colleague probably blames you for the new enclosed working arrangement. You could ask your Boss to make it perfectly clear to her that you had no part in it. She is also suffering with nicotine withdrawal, which explains her grumpiness.
She is not happy with her present working arrangements, therefore you should point this out to the Boss and see if some other conditions could be implemented.

Orla C · Answer

I think you should remain polite. The more you try to be nice to her, and the more she continues to snub you, the worse it makes HER look. And if you do start snubbing her back, you will only be sinking to her level.

longone492002 · Answer

If she is part of the team, then your should approach her and ask her if you have done anything to offend her.
If you haven't, then just do your job and avoid her until she realises she has no one to talk to in the office.
She will soon come down to earth and realise she is the one who has issues.
Otherwise, be yourself.

? · Answer

Disregard her. She works at every office, everywhere

Anonymous · Answer

Buy her a dildo.

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