I'm 30, shy, depressed, uncontrollably skinny and don't drink, how am I supposed to meet someone?

Life, or its value, should not be measured by whether people find you attractive or no. You are only here for so long. Do what makes you happy. Travel, read, learn things. Grow dreads because you want dreads, and not because they attract girls.

I'm very socially awkward myself. I have a hard time adjusting. I'm in university, and I have yet to make any new friends. But I do not let it get me down. I have never been kissed, never had a boyfriend, but I know life is about much more than finding a man. I want to travel, I want to see the world. And if I end up an old cat lady, it would be too bad, but it's how it is. Cats never disappoint you. :P

Which women are only impressed by looks and confidence?

Being a rather shy individual myself, I am more attracted to intelligent guys who don't know that they're kinda cute... works so well that between both mine and their awkward shyness I've managed to get my first bachelor's degree but not my first kiss.

I'm not sure where people meet each other, but maybe talking to people and girls that work with you, live near you, happen to be in the same shop as you... even if you just stop to say hi or say one nice thing about them, tell them one thing about yourself that you like.

There is always a reason to continue.

Watch this.

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=k7X7sZzSXYs

Then make a list of three things about yourself that you consider positive, and one thing you would like to work on. Smile about the positive things and make a plan to make the negative thing into a positive... by practising a skill, seeking professional help to improve or change, or even finding a way to think about something as a positive.

Everybody loves having tasty food cooked for them. Maybe you could at least make friends by posting invites to neighbours, friends, that girl you have a crush on, to come over for dinner or a potluck dinner.

Life is hard, but that is why it feels so good when you work hard at it and something finally goes your way.

Good luck <3

To me, your not satisfied with being, with yourself. You are the type of person, that needs human affection and appreciation. There are two types of people I see, first, the people that love and need to be around others to feel satisfied and true, the second type are the people that want to be alone, and can only have so much human interaction until their heads explode. The first type of people, grow sad, lonely or depperesed when there is no one to share a life with. I do not drink either, props to you brother! I am 20 and have never gotten drunk in my life, and people ask me all the time, how I can go to dance, or a bar and have fun with out alcohol, and I just don't understand the people who need it so much.

Alcohol ruins the natural simulations in your brain that are released when you feel pleasure, fun, happiness what ever, and are replaced by alcohol. Don't convert to alcoholic society brother. You will go farther then most those people will. It is hard to find people to share common things with, but keep your head held high and remain strong, and things will pay off.

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I&#39;m 30, shy, depressed, uncontrollably skinny and don&#39;t drink, how am I supposed to meet someone?

I ask girls out, but they turn me down. I&#39;m socially awkward, bad with alcohol and can&#39;t put on muscle or weight (i&#39;ve spent $300 on protein shakes/powder/gym in the last 2 months and haven&#39;t put on a single KG). I used to DJ but someone stole all my irreplaceable vinyl a couple...

OK, first of all -- just take a deep breath. Secondly, what will help you the most is to just start JOINING like all hell. Volunteer at your local shelter to walk dogs, clean out cat boxes, groom the animals. Join birding clubs. Join hiking clubs. Volunteer at a retirement home to read to the elderly, or take them out for coffee, or to run errands with them. Join a local library reading group, or a book club. Volunteer to teach a "beginner cooking course" one night a week at your local college, or put notices up on bulletin boards in book stores, libraries, grocery stores that you are available for "cooking tutoring" for beginners.

I am speaking from experience. I had a HORRIBLE break-up from a seven-year relationship with a man I considered to be "the one". I had to see a therapist briefly just to get me over the first couple of months, because I could not function. At all. And what got me OUT of it was to just throw myself into life. I became more active than at any previous point of my life. The important thing is for you to MEET PEOPLE in a neutral environment (like all the things I've suggested) and nature will take it from there. People with like interests tend to flock together. Screw drinking, and screw the bars. I've never met a decent person in a bar.

And you're wrong about how being a chef "doesn't impress the girls." I have a niece who loves NOTHING more than cooking, and she's had a half-dozen or so small catering gigs. She watches cooking shows on television all the time. If *she* met you, you guys would be gabbing all night long.

Try a dating sight online, sometimes you can find your match in there.

You can hone your communication skills while talking to people online.

You are not the only skinny, low confident person out there.

For every pot there is a lid.

She's out there looking for you.

And yes, to a womam, a chef is very impressive!

You ARE lacking confidence in yourself. How can you expect a woman to like you when you do not like your own self?

First, you need to get Christ into your life. Go to Church. Pray. And, be positive instead of being negative.

Women look at men for what is in their hearts, not by their looks. God made each one of us in his own unique way. He intended for you to look this way. Of course there are some things you can do to change yourself, but you need to start with your heart first.

Once women see a more confident, and positive person in you, they will be all over you.

I pray that all goes well for you.

Dont worry, patience pays off. Rememeber that!! You suffer now and in few months you will meet a partner for your life. I bet that. That's how it work. Karma and patience!! Just wait and see ;)

Move to a different area, get a fresh start.

"child in africa that he just needs to eat more..."

Don't stay in "Africa", move

By "Africa", I mean wherever you live.

try antidepressants but dont kill yourself. u have a lot left in life