should i give my 6 month old son a soother, he finds it very hard to settle to sleep and cries for 20 mins?

Dont give him one, like you have said you have gotten this far.

Why dont you give him a blanket he can get attached to. Or a certain teddy he could suck on (those infant sleep safe ones have teething ring kind of material. My daughter loved hers at that age)

If he cries and gets really upset when your at work, then why dont u just put him in a sling n let him lay on you the whole time. it will be comforting for him.

hmmm.. that sucks. and yeah my daughter had no interest in blankets either. other than just trying to rock him and comfort him, (which im sure u have tried) your other option might be to let him cry for a few minutes, so he goes to sleep on his own. The amount of time he will cry for will start to decrease. Its not for everyone, some mums dont believe in CIO and some do. so its only a suggestion (dont hate me for it!!)

I dont reccomend introducing a dummy now. But if there really is no other option for u then maybe its for the best. But keep it for night times(nap times), dont let him use it all day long. it will be easier on you to get rid of it when the time is right.

honestly, if he's having a hard time and its effecting you right now... i would give him the soother back...BUT, only give it to him at bedtime and during naps. then when he wakes up, put it out of sight and don't give it to him during the day. He is only 6 months old. He's definitely not too old to be using a soother just yet. i got rid of my son's at 1 yr old. i found that it was a good age for that. i just bought him soothers that were shaped differently, and he decided on his own that he didn't like them, and he never used them again.

Yes You Should !

Your his parent, think carefully