I'm nice to his family but he's not to mine!?

i can tell you are a very nurturing kinda girl,

and ill tell you now

-- if you already see him acting this way to your nephew, dont think he wont do this again towards his own or towards your children if you guys get that far.

id say let him go.

i agree with you-- no child should be talked down to, there's a calmer way to go about it.

hope you make the right decision dear!

good luck!

im with my partner 6yrs and we have a special needs child which i cant start to explain all the stress and challenges on a daily basis. if you read my question titled 6yr relationship valentine dilemma in category other family and relationships you will see the situation im in at the minute. he has very little patience towards the child and things can get very heated as the child never backs down, and i have at least twice or more heard my partner saying " ah fu-k off out of it then, go away from me" to our child. I find that sickening, and im disappointed at myself for not saying anything at the time, your obviously stronger. if i can give you any advice it would be if your going to hang round then be very wary and observant around him and think long and hard about having children of your own while your still in doubt over him. with my partner it was a moment of simply flipping, with your partner it could have been a slip of the tongue due to the shock of what the child was going to do and actually caring what he was doing. some people would say the angrier you are the more passionate you are about something

It's clear he has Cognitive (Family conduct type) issues when placed out of his happy little world with his daughter. If he spoke like that to any of my nephew's he would be flat on his back.

But if you like him you need to FEND for your Family and tell him that is NOT okay. If he stirs so much as look at you side ways, show him the DOOR.

Yeah that's pretty rude. You need to tell him how you felt about that, and if you still love him then give him another chance. Sometimes things just slip, you know? Two years is a long time so forget about it for now. If he is really sorry he'll never say that again and you won't have to hear that again. If you confronted him and he was a jerk about it, you know what you have to do, babe.

What sort of language is that toward a child ?^^! He is a moron for sure, I would NOT accept this from anyone.

It has nothing to do with Valentine here, but respect !

Yes I would ditch him, if you said this to his daughter ? What do you think would happen, ask yourself that question. You know the answer...

I think you just got an interesting glimpse of the real person. Not a nice trait - I can understand why you would want to dump him,

Just tell him exactly what you wrote down here. Let him know that he has no right to speak to a kid like that, let alone your nephew.

I want to know why you got with him in the first place.

Were you abused?

just talk with him