Japanese guys: Would you consider marrying a foreign woman? How do you believe it would effect you socially?

"May I ask why you want to know this information? Call me sensitive, but experience has taught me to be a little suspicious of people asking these questions"

Luddite, I understand that you are a luddite, as your name signifies, but this is Yahoo Answers. Do you think she is gathering data for a right wing newspaper or writing a Doctoral Dissertation? C'mon, this is Yahoo Answers. If you are suspicious of it, then don't bother contributing.

To cut to the chase, I think the person is asking because she is a female that is interested in Japan or just wanting to imagine the possibility that she would be involved in a international marriage with a Japanese guy.

No Freemasons or Illuminati, eh?

I have a few gaikokujin female friends who are married to Japanese men. Right off the bat I can tell you where I live, which is not Tokyo, or any other rural area, the Japanese men married to the foreign ladies are ones who have worked or studied for a long period overseas, which makes them a bit different than the average Japanese person, but not in a bad way.

As for income, which is a good point, ladies who are good with kids and teaching can make a whole lot of money teaching English to children. If a lady was trained in elementary education, or ESL, and came to Japan, and wanted to earn some income from teaching, she could potentially make more than her accountant or salaryman husband. Foreign men far outnumber foreign women in Japan, especially the long-term ones who are capable of effective networking and job-finding. And employers love to see foreigners who are settled down with husband and kids, since unlike younger foreigners, they won't suddenly quit and dissappear in the middle of the semester to go study sitar playing in Sri Lanka.

And I don't mean to typecast women as capable of only this work. Depending on the foreign lady's employable skills and freetime there are all variety of jobs that can be had.

When it comes to being "accepted," I don't really know what this means. People whom I don't like, don't like me. My Japanese wife's friends didn't shun her after she married me, and the gaikokujin lady I know, her husband hangs out with his coworkers for a beer fairly often. As long as the man and woman realize that neither partner HAS TO or even SHOULD try to act like a different nationality, they will get on fine, and any Japanese person who wouldn't accept a foreign wife is a Japanese person you don't want to hang out with in the first place.

I understand that you are asking about the different attitude of Egyptian men when married to a foreign woman than when married to an Egyptian and not about WHY they marry foreign women, so here's my answer: I have noticed the same thing too and I'm not talking about expressing their affection in public, I am talking about a different attitude even at home. When Egyptian men are married to a foreign woman they usually, willingly and happily, help at home, wash dishes, are understanding, caring and loving, help with the kids etc etc and I have seen it on several occasions , whether the couple live inside or outside Egypt. Yet there is sort of a different pattern to their attitude when they are married to an Egyptian woman. The man expects to have a clean house, a nicely cooked meal on time, a perfect mom and a beautiful wife in return for providing the monthly income even if the wife works too (it's the wife's chores as they say). Egyptian men in this case may offer help, but only to their convenience and not because they feel it's part of their responsibilities. I can only offer theories as to why this could be. Maybe foreign women are not as submissive as Egyptians due to cultural reasons, while the Egyptian women were raised in a culture that was ready for women to work but not ready for men to share house duties, so they basically do not object when they see this attitude and if they do, men don't take it seriously because they know their backgrounds only too well. The second theory is simply because men who consider marrying a foreign woman simply are different in character. They may be a bit more open minded and they do expect cultural differences and understand that they have to try to close the cultural gaps and different points of view with their wives!

Foreign Women In Japan

Nothings wrong with Luddites answer, except I would change " Suspicious " to "wary" and then add " a little "weary". But then I'm married to a Japanese woman so I'm not expected to know, am I.!!

@ Orion. I truly hope you find what your looking for and when, and if you do, you will find that Luddites answer is not far off the mark. Good luck to you.

@ Yoda. Although I enjoyed reading your response, there's always two sides to a every story.

Personally, I would. But I'm not sure if I ever get married first of all.

You know, more and more Japanese men and women do not get married.

>I'm just curious if *MOST* Japanese men (from Japan) would ever consider marrying a foreign woman?

But generally, the majority of Japanese men do not think about marrying a foreign woman. (They either want to marry only a Japanese woman, or do not want to get married).

Why? Data tells us that most of Japanese men do not get married with a foreign woman.

>How do you believe being married to a foreign woman would effect you socially?

There is little effect on social status. Some families oppose it. So in some cases, it could deteriorate your relation with your parents and relatives.

And if your foreign wife can't work in Japan, you might be worse off.

>Would you prefer to stay in Japan or move to the girl's country?

It depends on each case. Personally, I would stay in Japan for a while more.

As I've lived in foreign countries, I've met those Japanese who are married to foreign women.

There's one thing in common about them. They don't think like "women should be .../ women should act like..." as most of Japanese men think or hope as their ideal future wives.

about "How do you believe it would effect you socially?"

(lol) I believe only 'personal passion' makes them decide.... 'effect' comes after as a result.

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The statistics are very interesting and reveal sexism and racism in Japan.

There are remarkably more Japanese men married to foreigners than Japanese women who are.

The difference lies in what type of foreigner. Japanese men married to foreigners tend to marry other Asians, such as Chinese, Taiwanese, Filipinas, and South Koreans.

Japanese women married to foreigners tend to marry non-Asians. This leads many non-Asians to believe that Japanese women marry foreigners while Japanese men don't.

These are the facts. Now as to "why?", this is where all the theorizing comes in.

THEY WOULD IF THEY FOUND ONE THAT WAS INTERESTED ..... in small peckers