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Loss of female libido?
I'm a 40 something woman and although I love my partner dearly I just can't be bothered with sex, and will come up with any excuse I can to put it off. Although if I do succumb I do enjoy it.
I've spoken to my nurse when I went for my contraception check, to ask if it could be that which is effecting my loss of interest and she says not, it's probably just my age.
So, is this it? Has any one else experience of this and what can I do to get my drive back?
Thanks for that negative assumption Warren G - but actually I DO NOT have a ring on my finger!
I am on the pill (Marvelon), and the nurse expressed concern that maybe I shouldn't be on it not that I'm 43, as its questionable after the age of 35, but I pointed out that the doctor actually put me on it at 40, when I asked for suitable contraception. I'm reluctant to switch to the coil as I've heard so many horror stories about side effects from friends (and have actually witnessed these first hand), I know a couple of people who have had a problem with the implants too and I'm petrified of needles so the injection would be a major issue for me too.
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- **Ghosty**Lv 71 decade agoFavorite Answer
Hi - it is not your age.
Women are at their MOST sexual in your age group - 40 to 50 years of age.
My guess is that simple boredom and familiarity have set in. This does happen in long-term relationships.
A woman's libido is highly dependent upon her having regular quality sex; it is true that if you 'don't use it, you lose it'.
Read some erotic literature; books by Nancy Friday and Anais Nin are directed at women, and they are very arousing. Following that, put every effort into having regular sex. As you say, you do enjoy it when you get there!
Always remember that no matter how much a man says that he will never stray, if the right opportunity with a willing and flattering woman comes up, all men can be tempted. Try hard to keep your man happy and don't let him become another boring cheating statistic.
Good luck to you both.
- 7 years ago
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- 1 decade ago
I am younger than you so don't know about age but are you on the pill? When I started taking it my libido was noticeable lower although I never thought about it much. To be honest I only noticed how considerably it had changed when I stopped taking it.
So if you are on the pill it is perhaps worth coming off it for a month to see how you feel.
- Anonymous1 decade ago
Probably the fact that you have a ring on your finger now
