need help with a death?

I have struggled with serious PTSD from the death of a friend and a seperate fatality car accident that I helped on the scene with. It will take time and she will be sad and maybe even obsess over it and run it through her head over and over...her life has changed forever. Just show her that you're there for her, and try to take interest in listening to what she has to say if she wants to talk about it. Even if you are tempted, do not try to give her advice on how to handle it beyond "have you thought about getting help and talking to others?" Let her know it must be very hard for her and though you can't understand, you're glad she's able to talk to you. Nothing can make her feel better now because the grieving process should not be suppressed or artificially sped up. If she feels like she should stop thinking about it, she may begin to feel isolated or afraid to open up about it. Avoid getting upset or avoiding the subject.

It will get better, but it will take time.

"What to say to someone who has lost a loved one

It is common to feel awkward when trying to comfort someone who is grieving. Many people do not know what to say or do. The following are suggestions to use as a guide.

Acknowledge the situation. Example: "I heard that your_____ died." Use the word "died" That will show that you are more open to talk about how the person really feels.

Express your concern. Example: "I'm sorry to hear that this happened to you."

Be genuine in your communication and don't hide your feelings. Example: "I’m not sure what to say, but I want you to know I care."

Offer your support. Example: "Tell me what I can do for you."

Ask how he or she feels, and don't assume you know how the bereaved person feels on any given day. "

Please visit the links provided. They will be helpful...esspecially this one.

http://www.helpguide.org/mental/helping_grieving.h...

Good luck to you and your friend.

takes time, brother died 4 years ago, I still feel rotten