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Anonymous asked in Family & RelationshipsMarriage & Divorce · 1 decade ago

I'm divorced but I want my ex wife back?

I've been divorced for about a year and a half and I was married to my ex wife for 14 years. We have three kids 6,4, and 3. We got married when we were 22 after dating for a few months. Our marriage was pretty terrible. The first few years were wonderful, but after that it went downhill. We did not get along at all. We always argued, we never had sex, we never talked or anything. Most of it was my fault. For awhile we both just accepted that the spark was gone and it wasn't coming back, but living the same crappy way day in and day out gets really really frustrating at a certain point. I felt that I was unwanted so I went out to seek attention from other women and that led to me cheating on her. I confessed after the first time and it was like she didn't care. I mean she was mad, but she said that she just knew I was going to cheat so it wasn't surprising and after that we didn't talk about it. I mean, the whole time, she knew what I was doing, and acted like it didn't matter. I was happy at first, but I wanted love not sex and I felt she didn't love me, so I wanted out. She begged me not to leave, for our children, but it just too much. We stayed civil for our children but it was hard to be around her. I dreaded having to talk to her. After the divorce shock wore off I guess, she was like a totally different. I mean, she changed completely. She was happy, upbeat, confident, all the things she was when we first got together. Then she started seeing this guy. I didn't mind him at first, but she was crazy about the guy. Like he was fricking Jesus or something. He's nice to my kids and everything, but he's not all that. I didn't think that their little relationship was anything serious but like I said, she was crazy about the guy. As time went on, I started him at her house more and more and just recently at her birthday party last week, he proposed to her in front of everyone and she said yes. I miss my wife. I know I should have treated her better, I mean hell both of us screwed up, but I can't bare to think about her with anyone else. I haven't told her my feelings but I really want to. I want my family back.

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  • Sue C
    Lv 7
    1 decade ago
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    Michael, I'm just sorry for you that you haven't move forward with your life & are still wanting your wife back. I'm also sorry for your sake it sounds as tho she IS going to stick with her now "fiance" & in ALL honesty, I don't feel you'd have a chance. I just don't foresee it happening. When you start having these feelings of missing her etc. think back to what got you to the place you now are. The arguments, her lack of interest in you etc. etc. That should at least get you to thinking of ALL the reasons it just didn't work out. Dr.Phil show was just on that today, that is what he recommended for those having problems getting over their exs. To remember the reasons you did break up for. You certainly wouldn't want that kind of life back again. So there's just some food for tho't that may be of help to you. You ARE free to go forward with your life & find someone who will love you for you. Someone who WILL bring happiness into your life. There IS a special someone for you, you just have not met her yet. Let go of the past & move forward. The past is forever gone, the future is still our own...best to you...:)

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  • 6 years ago

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    Have you ever heard the saying " you don't know what you have until it is gone." Several things going on with your ex. 1. she feels guilty 2. she is regretting it. You can look at this in several ways: 1. She betrayed you, and the marriage and she learned the very hard way on what it did to you and your marriage and she is horrible sorry for it. The hugs she is asking for is her way of trying to see if you still care and love her. 2. She cheated on you and once the trust is broken, it takes a very long time to get it back. 3. Obviously you still have great care for her or else your questions of her intentions wouldn't even cross your mind. If you still love her then go to her. I don't think cheating is a good thing and I know it hurt you, but if you want her try it this way.... baby steps and make her want you. She does not want to be just friends, that's just a excuse she uses when testing the waters when you come around

  • 1 decade ago

    The only thing you can do is tell her how you feel. In order for you to tell her the proper way is you have to go back when you both started to have problems and try to understand it from her eyes and forget how you viewed it. To even have a chance you need to apologize for all that you did. You also need to even care about her happiness and know whether these feelings that you currently have are true or just jealousy. It will help also if know one but you and her are only present when you talk to her.

    The problem you so messed up on was you already cheated on her and but she begged you not to leave and you did! A lot of us don't get chances like that and it even showed how much she loves the kids and you for not wanting to divorce despite what you did. All I can say is tell her how you feel and go from there. Even if she says no still show and be happy for her. If not now maybe later she'll remember you and may come back. But you have nothing to lose by telling her.

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  • 6 years ago

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  • 5 years ago

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    5 years ago

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