OH MY GOD PLEASE HELP ME!!!!!?

you are really over the edge here. this is NOT the way for a bride to behave. brides are supposed to be the picture of graciousness in all things. get control of yourself.

you are quite wrong in thinking this is "your day" and you should have it the way you want it. it is also your fiance's day and it is also your family and friend's day. they are coming to share it with you, and you should consider it an honor and privilage that they have chosen to set aside their own busy lives in order to come and witness and share in your happiness.

now, the thing about the children...it is perfectly okay for you to tell people that this is an adult only wedding, but then you will have to make sure there are no children other than whomever is in your wedding party present. you cannot really get away with having your family children present and then telling guests not to bring their children.

there are things you can do though. you can provide a baby sitter and have the children elsewhere and allow them to come in for either just the ceremony or just the reception or just for the cake cutting or whatever.

you can provide a children's table and have either a teen or adult monitor them and give them colors and paper to occupy them.

or you can exclude children totally from your party and have adults only. just tell anyone who objects that you feel it would be inappropriate for the children to be present at your adult reception party as there will be drinking, etc.

but above all, you need to calm down and handle this like a mature adult.

Just tell your family and friends that you don't envision those people in your wedding party. It is yours and your grooms day. They are guests, so while they can have an opinion, until you ask their opinion.... their thoughts dot matter. Have what you want on your day. You may have to go bridezilla, buy it's your day! Pleasing everyone else should be the last thing on your mind. ( and it might be hard to not hurt people's feelings. Especially if you tell them that you aren't doing it their way. Just say you respect their opinion but it's not what you envision for your day)

First off all by yelling at your family you could have handled the situation better but I understand what it is being stressed. I totally agree because it is your day and you should make your own choices! explain to your family that it is your day, not theirs and that you appreciate that they are trying to help but its just not what you want. explain to them what you want and hopefully they will understand!

I hope this helps and I hope your wedding day turns out to be amazing :)

It is YOUR day. Step and tell them while you value their opinions it is YOUR wedding and you and your fiance will be planning the wedding as you see fit.

You're going to have to hurt some people's feelings to get your point across, but they wouldn't have hurt feelings if they weren't being so rude.

As you said it is YOUR day and it is your choice who you do or don't invite. stick to your guns, the rest of them will just have to like it or lump it

Pay for your wedding all by yourself.

then no one will expect anything from you.

Invite Gaddafi to your wedding...that'll show 'em.