Is is ok for an ex husband to be invited to a graduation ceremony after a big divorce ordeal?

It's his graduation, but it's going to be mighty uncomfortable for the boy's sister. why he didn't think of his sister is a bit much. How in the world did he get complete custody with NO over nite visits is pretty rough. He must have had one great atty. where she can't even have therm sleep over, what a total shame. That has to be so hurtful. i couldn't put my sister thru that. Hopefully he'll keep his distance from her, best to her tho...:)

I agree with Nicky. Beyond the fact that the ex-husband has custody of the kids, the fact that no overnights are granted is pretty powerful. It is difficult enough for men to get joint custody let alone sole custody. There is something really strange about this situation that she isn't telling you.

Are you looking at this red flag instead of simply a damsel in distress in front of you??? That red flag is awfully big. And I am sure she plays the victim very well. There is a lot more to the story.

As for the brother inviting his ex-bil to the graduation ceremony. Yeah. That's what happens sometimes. And in their post-divorce world, that will be part of their reality. Either accept it or move on.

BTW....my husband's nephew through his first marriage invited us to the wedding and reception. We wound up sending our regrets...but it was a testament to how my husband, his ex and I have handled the post-divorce world that the kids and extended family members all feel comfortable with us being in the same room or at the same event.

I am having a very hard time understanding your question! Your girlfriends ex-husband took away her sisters kids. How did he do that? Who has custody of those kids. Your girlfriends ex?

Please ask this question again so I understand what you are asking!

However, if the mother of the children says it is O.K. to invite him then i guess it would be!

Not quite sure , who's ex is invited, Your girlfriends or her sisters?

Just who is the graduation party for? Is it for the mother? Is it for the other relatives? No, it's for the kid who is graduating.

When my step kids graduated my wife had all three of us there. Her first husband, her second husband and, finally, me, her current husband. It was for the kids. It was right.

We are adults. We should be able to deal with the situation, no matter what it is.

It's their business, you shouldn't get involved in this. He had a relationship with her family as well. Let them figure out what works for them. If she doesn't even have visitation rights, she either has issues (which she's not sharing with you) or had an incredibly bad lawyer.