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Anonymous asked in Family & RelationshipsSingles & Dating · 1 decade ago

Need advice with a girl!?

I would need advice on a situation bad. I need honest answers, and lengthy ones too. I really need some help so I'm asking for you to give me some good advice. So, anyway, I'm a 17 year old kid from Arizona. I'm currently a senior at my high school. To get straight to the point, I'm in love with my best friend.. and I don't know what to do. I feel like I'm stuck in the "best friend zone" and can't get out. she just got out of a big relationship with a guy, and ever since then me and her have become good friends. I have been giving her advice, and I'm one of the few people she tells everything too. The problem is, I really like her! I want to tell her so bad, but I'm afraid she won't feel the same and our friendship will be lost forever.. and on the other hand, she might like me, and if I told her how we feel, then we could date. It's been killing me for the past few weeks. I seriously feel like I'm in love. She flirts with my other guy friends a lot, hell, she flirts with a lot of guys. Ever since they broke up, all kind of guys are trying to get her, like popular, handsome guys. I feel like I don't meet the physical standards in a way. I'm not popular at all, but I have a lot of friends, so I'm not a loser either. she is very beautiful, and I just feel like I would never be able to date her.. I also feel like I'm only good for advice too sometimes. so I'm asking you all: what should I do?! :(

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  • Anonymous
    1 decade ago
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    Well i think that you should get her alone and tell her everything that you feel, dont tell her you love her because that might freak her out but tell her that you like her alot and care for her. Take a chance hun you never know she might feel the same way. Girls sometimes flirt with other guys to get there mind off of that other guy or make them jealous. Just show her you care and that your there for her. good luck(:

  • 1 decade ago

    If she is one of your closest friends, then you should only hold out until you feel the time is right. Hiding it forever will haunt you and you will continue to ask yourself "what if" situations. Depending on how you approach the situation, she may either reciprocate some of the same feelings for you but more likely on a friendly level, or she will take it harshly and distance herself from you to figure it out. It is a conundrum in itself, whether or not to reveal a love that may not be there at all since one way love truly isn't love. If you can take anything from the examples of human culture and society, it is that physical attributes are secondary and any guy can get any girl by being honest to yourself. If she doesn't want to be with you that way, you will have to be understanding and be a true friend and not develop hate from out of the confusion and frustration you will most likely see if she were to deny you. From my personal experience in nearly the same situation, take a chance and be honest.

    If, of all words of tongue and pen,

    The saddest are, “It might have been,”

    More sad are these we daily see:

    “It is, but hadn’t ought to be.”

  • Anonymous
    1 decade ago

    If you feel like this girl is worth it, I would say, you should ask her out! You're already a really good friend to her which means she has a lot of trust for you and she likes you. Even if you don't feel like you're as handsome or popular as other guys, it doesn't mean you don't have a chance with her. Not all girls like guys just based on their looks.

  • 1 decade ago

    You're already friends, and she obviously likes you enough to talk to you and trust you. Never count yourself out. Nobody is "not good enough" for anyone else. Just take your chances and ask her out/ tell you how you feel about her. I know it sounds scary, but if you don't do it, you'll be forever stuck in the friend zone. What's the worst that can happen? If she says no (not likely) then simply remain friends. If you love her then you have to think: is it worth it for me to ask her out? Just think how happy you could be :)

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  • Anonymous
    1 decade ago

    You should go for it and ask her out! The worst thing that will happen it that she says no, and things are a little awkward for a couple of weeks. Then it'll be forgotten. And if she does say yes, then it could be a great relationship for both of you- the best couples are best friends too.

  • Anonymous
    1 decade ago

    I dont think you need to jump on her with how you feel... come at her slowly so you dont overwhelm her with your feelings, and remember she has feelings to and they may not match yours. I believe that if you like someone you should tell them. maybe take her to dinner or a movie or both and be sure to treat her as you would if she was your new girlfriend. dont be someone your not and just talk it out with her. tell her, i dont want our friendship to ruin but i have feelings for you and now that you are single and i see how many guys are trying to get with you i dont want you to get hurt again and i would not hurt you, you are very beautiful and i like you alot but make sure you tell her how you dont want to ruin the friendship. and if she doesnt agree with your feelings you cant change that... you cant make someone love you. but another thing is a situation is only awkward if you make it awkward, so dont=]

  • 1 decade ago

    Ask her out! Shes in to you too... and if you're afraid about negative outcome, man you'll never knew what will happen if you will not ask her. Right? You're just 17 and I am telling you there's more out there! Much more complicated than what you're having now. Jack let this be your first step in much complicated world of relationship. Ask her now before its too late...

  • 1 decade ago

    Tell her about your feeling ! I'm a girl and if my best friend told me so i'd appreciate this very much not break our friendship .... please be brave and tell her your feeling

    if she do like you she ------- will till you also

    if not she will like you someday do not worry ;)

  • Anonymous
    1 decade ago

    take your chances and be honest with her, u never know what might happen next.

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