Am I in love with my best friend? (We're both straight males.)?

like most people, you have the potential to be bisexual:

nothin' wrong with that ~ be true to yourself & follow your heart !

I am gay. I consider myself 100% gay, or as close to that as you can get. 9999 out of 10000 of my sexual thoughts are about other males.

But that doesn't mean that stray 10,000th thought can't wind up blossoming into something powerful.

Is it possible that what you're feeling is love? Yes. Well, actually, it's DEFINITELY love, the only thing in question is what kind. You smile when he smiles, you hurt when he hurts, and although I wouldn't say you're attracted to him, your mind has considered him so important as to imagine sharing that most intimate of physical bonds with him. It SOUNDS like romantic love to me, not just brotherly affection. It's rare for even the closest of brothers to have such an attachment that borders on obsession.

However, and it's VERY rare for me to suggest someone be anything but open and honest about their feelings for someone else, I think in this case it might be a mistake to let these feelings get out of hand any more than they already have. This man is very important to your life and always will be, but there's no need for you to explore a romantic relationship and abandon your natural sexuality over that, especially since it's unlikely that he's on the same level (after all, his behavior of not sticking close to you at parties and spending time with other friends suggests that, at best, he's not as clingy about his feelings as you, and more likely that his feelings are those of a regular friend). Trying to bridge the gap is just going to put a strain on what sounds like one of the most beautiful life long friendships you'll ever have.

On the other hand, if he starts feeling like you're keeping a secret or that you don't feel like you can go to him with your troubles, that's an even bigger strain - if it gets to that point, then telling him how you feel is the lesser of the two evils. He seems cool enough that the relationship is highly likely to survive it eventually.

Grieve him. Treat it like he just broke up with you, accept the pain of not getting closer than you are (and even taking a step or two back), and try to do what you would normally do after losing a romance with a girl who was important to you.

Don't be too hard on urself dude, we all think abt random things in life, sometimes things we might not want in our minds still pop up. You just have a very close bond with him, it sounds like you aren't used to being so close to anyone and that's what's making you feel this way. I've had random sex dreams too, just cuz u dream abt something it doesn't always mean you want what your doin in your dream, your just overthinking at night, even while you sleep and it ends up as a dream.

Think rationally, do you rlly feel attracted to him? Can you see him as a future life partner? Or just a friend? We all get confused sometimes bud, but at the end of the day no one knows yourself or your feeling better than you!

I think you should just relax and go with what feels right to you. There's no need to label yourself and most people aren't exclusively heterosexual or homosexual anyway but somewhere in between. Maybe you're a Kinsey 1 or 2 (check that out here: http://www.iub.edu/~kinsey/resources/ak-hhscale.ht...

Just let yourself explore your feelings but also keep in mind that, just as in any friendship, going from from friends to more than friends could risk your friendship. Maybe he feels the same way, maybe he doesn't. You won't know until you explore a little more.

Have fun and good luck :)

This is sweet, falling in love is sweet. I say go for it if you want to.

It is infrequent but known situation, what you must do is to talk to him. You are bffs you can talk casually about anything... just bring the sexuality topic and discuss to know his insights.

Just be honest to him, what a bestmate expects from another. Even if he not interested he will respect and be with you. :)

Sometimes it is possible for Love to overlap physical orientation, because it's emotional and emotion has no gender. I think same happened here, so you r straight but it does not matter.

Dude your lack of experience with close male relationships and the oppressive expectations placed on male behavior (i.e. that which defines a true male) has boxed you in. It's ok to feel close to another guy and expect to be around him and worry about him and care about him without wanting to have sex with him. Sex is the ultimate form of intimacy, but having a sex dream doesn't mean you want to bone him; rather, it means you desire his company. Be free of these limitations and closeness of your relationship as a gift that should be enriching throughout your entire life.

That's how i felt at first also. I didn't have much close relationships so when I finally had a best friend it was weird. It's normal. You're friends are suppose to make you happy.

"...these feelings aren't healthy..." --

If you truly feel this way, it seems rather odd

you'd be asking the question in THIS forum.

Just saying.

you should bang him and see if you like it, sounds ridic but problem solved, no more thinking about it

To be honest you sound like your bi