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Should I move in with my boyfriend?

Okay, my boyfriend is 17 and I am 14 he is really in love with me like how I am with him too. When he turns 18 which is in December he asked me to move with him to a different state like 600 miles away from where I live and just start a life of our own, I want to but am afraid of certain things; Like with him I fell really secure and loved but am barley 14 gonna be 15 at the time but still am still small.. I don't know how to say no with a good way, and he also asked me to marry him. I know marriage a big commitment and am not even ready for it shouldn't even be thinking about it now in my age. Well, can you guys give me good reasons I could tell him or make me decide on a decision to take?

Update:

thanks guys for all the feedback you quys had gave me! ill take it into consideration.. we still have a lonq time still when December comes we might not even make it or something. But once again thank you all, you quys are riqht... today I am going to see him I might brinq it up and just say what you quys are saying.(:

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  • Anonymous
    1 decade ago
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    In my opinion id say no, i mean your 14 you have so much to do before you settle down.. You might love each other, i can understand that, but to move across the country and get married? You'd be leaving all your friends and family and if it's just you two your going to have to have some sort of income.. and surely you will want the best life you can which includes finishing school and maybe college? If you decide no and you cant think how to tell him just explain you love him but you think your too young to move away and settle down at these years in your life people need their friends and family.. I hope i helped :)

  • Anonymous
    1 decade ago

    Well you cant get married without your parents consent since you are soo young, so that is out of the picture. Moving in together is a big step, one you both are too young to make. You have to think about everything from finances, jobs, responsibilities, everything. You obviously like this guy, but if he is making huge decisions like moving away from your friends and family to start a "life of your own", you should be a part of that situation. Talk to him and tell him you need to take your time and not make any quick/rash decisions. Take it slow... you are young and there is a lot of life to live!

  • 1 decade ago

    you are a very young girl. your parents should be real concerned to what is going on. this type of a move at such an immature age can weigh some heavy responsibilities. you are not ready to be on your own. you need to sit back and focus on school, and possibly college. there are certain things in our life that need to be accomplished prior to living with someone or even thinking about getting married. let yourself grow into a young lady and give things time to bloom. one way of saying no is to explain that there are goals in your life that need to be met. explain the fact that you are to young. this topic is really simple and straight forward. get it together! you do not want to make mistakes that will cause serious problems down the road. you are too young to know exactly what love is all about. get your priorities in line. this is not a priority. being with your parents and being a respectful young child...now this is your priority.

  • 1 decade ago

    No. You should never move in with someone if you're not capable of supporting yourself without them.

    I moved in with my boyfriend when I was 22 and even that was a foolish mistake. I can't imagine you doing that at barely 15. You can't drive, you can't work, you have no degree or education, and not even a true and complete understanding of who you are as a person and an adult. I truly believe that it would be wise to finish high school first and foremost.

    You said yourself that you're not ready for marriage, and moving in (regardless of a ring or not) is like getting married. Just tell him you are too young and you're not ready. If it's truly meant to be, he should have no problem waiting.

    Source(s): Lie experience.
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