Proposing as a young Muslim Girl?

It is lawful for the woman to propose herself in marriage to a man. She can do so if she sees in that man piety, knowledge and good character. This is even a sign of her honorable state.

In fact, many good women proposed themselves in marriage to pious and good men.

http://www.islamweb.net/emainpage/index.php?page=s...

what you have to do is :

- pray istekhara before u speak to ur parents

and this dus is beneficial before ur convo with ur parents:

Surah Taha

20:25 (Moses) said: "O my Lord! expand me my breast;

Qala rabbi ishrah lee sadree

20:26 "Ease my task for me;

Wayassir lee amree

20:27 "And remove the impediment from my speech,

Waohlul AAuqdatan min lisanee

20:28 "So they may understand what I say:

Yafqahoo qawlee

My advice will vary depending on your age. How young are you?

and with Allah's help, if you don't get married now or to that guy, then you can still marry an equally good or better muslim man.

Dear sister,

I don't think google and observation is a perfect way to get to know him. People act differently when they are around friends than when with family. As for google, I am more than sure that you didn't find much about him from that. You would need to meet him (with a wali of course) and have you wali ask around about him to determine his character. If you are 16, you are too young to get married. If you are 17, I still suggest you wait. 18 is still young. 19 is okay but not preferable. I worry that if you get married this young that life may not be so happy for you later. What seems so great now is not how it is in reality usually.

Really, I would wait for marriage if I were you. Don't just marry this guy out of worry he is the only good guy you will be able to find as that is not true.

Wa'alaikumus sAlam wa Rahmatullahi wa Barakatuh sister

Sister, i would advise you to make istikhara

I think its best to get a degree before you marry, however some people get married while studying and things work out well for them too

only Allah knows in what there is good and in what there is bad

Make Istikhara and ask Allah for guidance

Also, pray Salatul Hajat for yourself (the Prayer of Need) and ask Allah for whatever you want and need

certainly discuss it with your parents, most parents would want their daughters to have a degree and even a job before they enter marriage just incase things dont go well in a marriage

Im sure that there is a perfect man for you somewhere

take care

lool that's awkward

i would never have the guts to propose to a guy :P

and if you don't mind me asking how much is the age gap?

is he like 40? and if he's that old, why hasn't he found a good religious wife yet?

anyways, just being rational..

Tell your momma and aunts to go to his house and let his parents know you are available for marriage that way if his parents are on the lookout for a daughter in law they would consider you for their son, in the meantime do ishtikaara/salaatul hajat and ask Allah(swt) to bless you with a good husband. :)

Do not let age barrier ever become a factor. For love is not something that can be measured by the hours in a day. Khadija, after all, was more than a decade older than the Prophet. Marry by all means, I have a good feeling about it.

So how old is the guy you are wanting to marry?

Edit: There's nothing wrong with saying he is good looking, that should always be something we look for in a spouse along with everything else.

It's not Haraam or shame if you ask him for marriage (as long as he has good islamic manners (akhlaaq and good practice in islam), however, the big gap in your ages is a problem.

You might not understand him and same with him too. It's going to be hard to communicate due to the difference in age.

If you would consider marrying someone you don’t even know and have to get your mother involved you are not mature enough to even think about it.

Getting parents approval is not essential l and I am old enough to be your mother.

Picking your own husband without help from your parents, living on your own, paying your own bill and taking care of yourself requires maturity and that is what is necessary before you get married.

If a proposal simply means dating that is even less reason for parent’s approval.

I said nothing about losing virginity on a whim.

walyumasalam sister!i thing u have the rite to talk about it openly to ur parents and convey ur opnions and thoughts clearly and honestly and then listen to them and also think about thr point of view.ask them to perform istakahar or better u might do it urself.n depending on result go ahead.my personal opnion if that man is decnt n nice ur parents wont have any problem with it u can complet ur studies after ur nika aswel.may Allah bless u both!ino u seem to be in love with him go ahead talk to ur parents!tc

lol,just say "I CALL DIBS ON HIM!"

xD

i guess you'll have to get to know each other (with your parents present i guess) or something

then tell him you want to marry him so he doesn't go off and marry someone else and you get all emotional broken about it

wait,what?you aren't in love with him?then why do you want to marry him?!