Should I be Friends with my Husband`s EX?

I don't see why either of you should be friends with her, and if it was my husband I would tell him how uncomfortable the relationship is making you and that it needs to stop

Misty, I'm going to speak from the other side of the issue, as the ex-girlfriend.

I've been friends with my ex for 20 years now. We have ZERO attraction to each other. The friendship is based on warm feelings of well being for each other, and gratitude for being good to each other through lifes ups and downs. Now, he is married, and if his wife didn't like me or want me around? I would be gone out of respect for his marriage. Period. I've been fortunate that his wife and I get along really well and they have a great marriage together full of trust and love. Otherwise, it doesn't work.

If you are not comfortable with her, maybe she never reached out to you the right way for your blessing? If that's the case, then no way jose.

I emailed my exes wife asking for her permission to be friends and made it clear if she's uncomfortable, I would drop the friendship, even though it was 20 years long. I also took my exes wife out to dinner and dancing so she could get to know me. We ended up really liking each other.

If you love your husband, and the girl is reaching out to you, I say let go of your fear and embrace that your husband is the type of man who is uber respectful of women and is capable of lifetime commitment, be it to friends, or to you. That's a guy worth listening to. But if this girl still rubs you the wrong way, do not hesitate to let him know it's not gonna fly. And if this girl has any respect for your husband she will back off. A real friend would do that.

Are you crazy? Your husband is contacting his ex and you don't wan to be her friend? what? huh? YOU need to be HER friend even if you don't like herrrr... YOu need to play the game IF something is happening you'll be more alert of it. Even if there isn't atleast you're sure of that. But if it's just a friendly thing and you still don't like her and it disturbs you , you still need to be her friend IF your husband is contacting her and wave her away slowly so she doesn't take even the smallest opportunity to get her way.. I think she might be enjoying what she's doing. Cause obviously she would know if you don't like her by now, I mean you being married to him and all and not liking her. She kNOWS. But she still want to be your husbands friend? thats not normal. I wouldn't give a S#H##t if my ex's wife didn't like me, I just won't be keeping in contact with them--- but she isn't doing that for a reason... put your atenna's oN ....:)

Maybe he's trying to hang onto a part of his past that includes her. Ask him about it. I would be friendly, but not actual friends with the ex. You're more likely to be included in conversation, etc. Talk to him, explain you're not trying to be mean, but that since they don't share kids together, his friendship with her seems inconsiderate to you. Good luck!

I would sit his butt down and say quit with all this talking and say either me or her. Why do you want to be friends with his ex.. oh brother give me a break ..You arent being mean but i think he is 2 timing you.

Sounds like you need to take the bull by the horns and put a stop to that.

No reason in the world why they need to be friends. Especially you. Give us

a break!

If there are no kids involved, the only reason to have an ex around is to nail them, and nail them hard.

Ex's are ex's for a reason. If you become friends with her, then it makes it easier for them to **** around with each other. Just sayin.

He wants you to be her friend because he's hoping he'll get a threesome out of it. Just sayin. My own man has asked me before if I would do any of his exes (he showed me pictures). It's one thing if its just a fantasy but your man is trying to make it real. Hahaha its up to you what to do with that.

I don't think she should be in the picture especially with no children involved.