I like my boyfriend's best friend.?

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I recently got together with my boyfriend about a week ago. It was a mutual decision and a week ago, I truly did like him. But now I'm thinking that it was a mistake. I'm finding myself with feelings for his friend and one of my really good friends again. And yes, I say again because I liked him before I even considered going out with my boyfriend. My boyfriend is a good guy but I feel like I'm more compatible with the other guy. It also doesn't help that I'm not attracted to my boyfriend and I'm more attracted to the other. I know he feels the same way, he's told me that he's had feelings for me before and I think he still does but he's moving to wisconsin in a couple of days and I don't know when I'm going to see him again. I need help! Idk what to do. Should I stay with my boyfriend even though I don't have as strong of feelings for him like I used to? Or should I break up with him for the other? Please help me! No rude comments, thank you.

Kevin · Accepted Answer

Do not break up with him and go after his best friend. That has a really good chance of ruining their friendship. Plus, if he is moving to another state, it wouldn't be good for you to get your hopes up of something working out or even to just have a fling with him for a little bit. 

My suggestion would be to break up with your boyfriend anyways though. This early in the relationship (even though it's revisited) leaves an opportunity of no one getting hurt very badly if at all. If you aren't attracted to him and you don't have strong feelings for him, it isn't worth it for you to stay in the relationship. There will be another guy that comes along eventually that you will truly like and be attracted to and you won't worry about either one of these guys at that point. You don't want to stay in a relationship that you don't enjoy and you don't want to break up a friendship and/or get into a relationship that turns into a long distance relationship (or one that just doesn't last more than a few days) shortly after it starts.

Anonymous · Answer

you are in a pickle :)

well no use leaving you boyfriend for someone that is going off.

But listen, I don't know how old you are, but I'm presuming young, don't continue with your boyfriend. From what I can understand it's like you fell back into a rut. Getting back with an ex is the easiest thing there is, everyone feels that if she leaves her boyfriend she might not find another one, but its all in our head.

What I'm telling you is, don't go wasting your young age over someone which you will end up leaving again. I never heard of a couple that broke up and when they got back together lasted for much longer than they did first time round.

I know it's hard, but trust me, you will find better people, and who knows, this other friend might not be leaving for long after all

kiss me slowly ;* · Answer

I am in the same situation almost, it sucks! I am gonna end it tomorrow, we just started dating monday.  Go with what you feel if you like the other guy more and your un happy in your current relationship then go for it! Thats what i am doing! I feel bad but I gotta do it.

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