No kids at my wedding dammit?

You're marrying the guy. If you wanted to marry him there's no excuse from the kids not letting you marry him. Sorry that's not a good enough reason not to marry the guy.

I understand where you are coming from even if you've perhaps not put it across as well as you could have done. You made an agreement about no children at the wedding and now you feel you are being dictated to and they are not even discussing it. Unlike some of the others I think this is a bigger deal than that, the issue isn't about letting a 10 year old come to the wedding it's about respecting your wishes and views and being prepared to discuss and compromise and it sounds like you've both got your heels dug in over this. You are right to have a serious think about the wedding because if the two of you can not agree on such a minor matter now how will it be once you are married. Can you accept him thinking he can just override you and dictate about things because that is what he is doing. If he will not even sit down and discuss any options then you have serious problems for the future. I hope you get this sorted out.

Just to let you know, on the show "Bridezilla" when the narrator is making comments about the Bride's attitude being acceptable, SHE'S BEING SARCASTIC!! Dont be a *****. Did you specify age limits on the "No Kids" rule cause if not, than legally and technically that could mean anyone up to 18 yrs old.

If youre having such a hard time dealing with your future husband NOW during the planning stages of your married life, take that as a sign and just get out now.

Im surprised HE hasn't called it off yet.

Call off the wedding. Do this guy a favor and don't marry him. Because you are so upset about it, you shouldn't get married. This is just hte first of many times that you will disagree. Do your really want to live like this for the next 50 years of your life, or even another month? Call it off.

That said, you can tell the cousin that you will have a babysitter there to take care of his daughter if you still want to get married.

I had kids at my wedding and loved it. They thought I was a princess and treated me like royalty. It was a wonderful feeling. But it's up to you.

If she starts 'hanging' on you at the wedding, tell her to go see your new hubby, lol.

The other response about how excited she probably is ... is so true. When my older aunt married and had 'no kids', my younger cousin was devastated. To placate her, I said "when I get married, not only will you be invited but you'll be a junior bridesmaid". Five years later, when we announced our engagement, I got a late night phone call from my aunt ... "if you've changed your mind about Jane being a jr. bridesmaid please let me know so I can tell her right away .... she's dancing around the house, phoning all her friends ... telling them she's going to be in a wedding!!!!" I had forgotten, but she had not! She made all the planning and the wedding fun .... She's going to make you feel like a Princess at a Royal Wedding.

This is one of those things you store for the future ..... "Remember when you decided to invite your cousins daughter to our wedding without discussing it .... My turn, decisions made"

Congratulations and have a beautiful wedding

You can deal with this two ways,

be gracious

OR

Be a B*tch.

Option 1, rethink kids at the CEREMONY (not the reception), this allows the cousin to have his brat at the wedding in a way where she can't be a pain in YOUR posterior, you'll be up at the alter, she'll be in the pews. Arrange a sitter for kids located at a DIFFERENT location so she can't leech herself to you at the reception (the place she is likely to), allows the cousin to be present without worrying about her and YOU look like an angel for sacrificing one of your desires for a perfect wedding.

Option 2- stick to your guns, no kids PERIOD, look like a B*tch, have his family hate you, and you feeling miserable on your wedding day because you've had a huge fight with your partner.

I can't really think of any other way to do this than these two options.

If you don't want to get married don't do it. His family should be able to come to the wedding, a 10 year old isn't a toddler there shouldn't be an issue. You can just sit them at the table farthest from you. The wedding is about you two not his family. I think your making a bigger deal out it than it is honestly. But it sounds like you have doubts so don't add to the divorce percentage rate and call it off.

Well... um, er. I can promise you this, not one of your guests (not one!) will be as excited to be at your wedding then a 10 year-old child. Not one of your guests (not one!) will think the entire event is as romantic and exciting as a 10 year-old child being able to get all dressed up for a wedding. None of your adult guests care! We've been there before, we've done it. The world looks much better through the eyes of a 10-year old. But, hey, go ahead cancel your wedding. Your adult guests for the most part won't care. We'd rather stay home and watch the Bachelorette then see someone as cranky as you get married.

You have issues.

1.) If you "really don't want to get married anyway," then DON'T! No one is forcing you into it. Better to end it now than end up divorced in a year.

2.) That was really rude of you to write "no kids" on the invitation. Surely you can find a babysitter or something to watch kids during the ceremony if you hate them so much.

3.) It's really tragic that you hate a little girl who clearly looks up to you. God knows why she does-- you seem like a ***** to me!

call it off he is willing to let the cousin override you on the wedding. things will get worse much worse