Isn't it recommended for wives to do house chores for husbands even when she is a housewife?

My marriage is much like yours, and we're both American-born here.

I see my housework as important, as well as keeping our financials up to date, and taking care of the kids. His income-earning work is just as important. When I was younger, I never would have thought I would have chosen this, but it works. He appreciates what I do, and that's important, just as I appreciate his contribution. I also think housework can be hard (I voluntarily mowed the yard last year when he was working 80+hours each week).

Then again, we abide by the Middle Way in our house, and just try not to create suffering. Our outlook is completely different, with few "should do ___" judgments. Our friends think we're nuts and cannot understand how I can be happy this way. When I expected more than what I have and before I saw how I can keep my creativity and balance, I was unhappy. Our effort is pretty equal, our affection is, too. He also cooks more than I do, and in return I do all the laundry. I dislike most cooking and he dislikes laundry, so it works. We talk about it. We say "please" and "thank you", too.

Most American marriages don't seem to have great communication and the couples like that "quick fix" or "easy answer". I see many couples where one or both partners still "act single" and spend time in bars, or disrespect their spouse by insisting upon doing activities with which the spouse disagrees. It seems selfish...why would I want to go out of my way to hurt my husband's feelings?

Sometimes people just aren't satisfied. I'm glad I am.

A 'housewife' or 'house husband' is just that...they are the person who keeps up the home, prepared the meals, runs the errands, etc and that is their "job"...

If both parties work outside the home, then they should work out between them who should do what chores (the house still needs to be cared for and everyone living there who is able, should contribute unless a housekeeper is hired)...

Different couples have different dynamics and different ideas about what is appropriate for each person to do...what each person's "role" in the relationship is, etc...whatever works for the couple is fine...

I think "equal" means something different in every relationship. It is hard to say what is right and what is wrong. When American women marry women from outside of the U.S., people automatically think it's for all the wrong reasons. But who knows? Maybe men just appreciate the values of women of other cultures, not necessarily that they think that the woman will serve them more readily.

In my relationship, I'm expected to do everything. Even when I worked full-time, had a part-time job, and went to school at the same time, I was expected to do everything around the inside of the house and he was expected to do everything on the outside of the house...and when he didn't do it, I wasn't to supposed to give him any lip about it because he didn't appreciate that. I don't think all relationships work that way, but some do. Now I don't work--just go to school and take care of the house. We just live a different life that way, but it's okay. Some men just expect things a certain way. If we don't like it, we're free to leave them. But if we love them, then we're going to do all we can to make their lives easier.

hana a housewife is just as it implies she takes care of the home

your husband is considerate and does not consider you his maid

he even helps you when needed

Your marriage is as good as it should be do not listen to your friends

It works for you that's all that matters

And i,m sure if you chose to work your husband would step up to help more

But for now if he works and your happy doing what you do

Some men like wives at home but if you feel the need to work

I,m sure your husband would understand and help you in your decision

But some feel proud of the fact that their wives do not have to work

And they can support them not to do this , you are lucky to have him

My wife is from Russia and she is also a very traditional lady. In the 11yrs of our marriage she has always been a housewife, she takes great care of our home, great care of our boys and great care of me. I'm a business owner and I work hard to provide for my family, we have our own roles and we do take care of each other.

A man here. If the wife works and the husband does not, he should keep the place clean, do the shopping, etc. In general, or often, it is the opposite - in which case the woman should work at home. You can't expect a man to work all day and then do the housework.

Whatever happens - don't let him take advantage: you are his woman, not his slave.

true! some American man choose Asian woman for the reasons you mentioned, but Japanese are not included!

better for you to enjoy your family and stop listen what others think, is their problems and experiences but not yours! do what you think is good for the whole relationship, enjoy being a woman, make your man feel proud of you and the beautiful family he have. be a good mother at home and a "bad girl on bed" just be happy!

If you are a stay at home wife I see nothing wrong with it as you said he does help you as well..

my wife bought me a car and a home i will clean the house for the rest of my life!!!!!!!!!