Proposing to my girlfriend tonight?

Most likely she will be thinking of her father anyway as it is her 21st. I would suggest that perhaps you propose in private, not with everyone around in case she gets emotional. Alternatively, wait for another day.

This is a toughie. First, I always suggest never proposing on anyone's birthday or any holiday. Too much stuff going on. Now, perhaps write her a letter and let her read it first. Explain how much you love her and that you hurt for/with her the loss of her Father. It has been a year and as hard as it is (I know) it is time for her to be getting on with her life. Try writing that you know that she misses her Father, but would he want her to continue to be so sad. He would want her if he were here to go ahead with her life and be happy. He would not like it if he knew she was still sad, he would want her to try to be happy and get married and have him some grand babies he can look down on. Again, tell her how much you love her and how much you want her to be your wife. Then write, Will you marry me and make me the happiest man on this earth?? and see how she reacts, be prepared, most brides to be do cry. Then just show her the ring. She has been Thur a lots of emotions and turning 21 is a big step. You can ask her to accept this ring as a token of your love for has and as a promise for a future together when she is ready. Tell her that on her wedding day, her Father may not be there in a physical form, but that he is right beside her in spiritual form all the day and wants to see her happy and joyous.

i say that if you both are ready and it is something you have talked about before, just follow your heart and it will lead you.

as for her father, if she is having a fabulous birthday then i doubt that when you propose and let her know that you love her and will forever and want to be with her till the end of time, then i think she will just be blown away and remarkable happy and her father will not come to mind tonight.

the problem will arise, but if you are ready to get married and spend the rest of your life with her and share everything with her, then im sure by talking about it, what ever the issue about her father might be about him not being there, im sure you can over come it, no problems. :)

good luck......

congratulations....for later

The joy :-)

She will get over it my dad died 8years ago when I was 18 and I still feel the way she does but the joy of having you for the rest of her life and knowing her dad would be proud is all she needs and yes im sure even at the wedding she will be sad and might cry its sad/sweet tears of happiness combined.

Good luck

Oooh, this is tough. Well, what i'm thinking is that hopefully the feeling of joy will overcome the sad feelings about her father. I mean proposals are always really lovely, and i'm sure she'll be delighted :)

Good luck to you both, and congratulations! ^^ I wish you all the best :)

Tears could be due to mixed emotions... The moment you propose to her, maybe you can tell her about how much you love her and you promise in the name of her father that you'll take care of her always.

proposing to your girl friend tonight is bad because you should be happy in her happiness.you should help her in her work.it is better to be closed friend and support her in every step.you should be honest and know about her interest and hobbies.

Sorry to hear about the death. I think you should understand her emotions. So please give sometime to recover, then only propose her.

I agree with shimmy