boyfriend is going to europe without me?

i think 10yrs of always doing everything together is a pain is the a$$, so give the guy some liberty

Paris is different from one day to another, from one hour to another - each visit in Paris is unique and you will feel that one day, I hope soon...

I was lucky enough to visit in 2006. Example: I stayed near the Eiffel tower during the sunset and the sky was amazing - at every minute, sun was painting the clouds in different shades.

I am glad I could visit alone first. Why? Because I had the chance to SEE the city. If I was with my love, then I could not enjoy completely the charm, I would try to answer his needs, to follow the road he would take. Like this, I could let myself follow my instincts and I walked for hours in every direction I wished, all day long.

Next time, when I will go, I promised myself I would show him the best parts, at the best time of the day (at Sacre Coeur, the light is best at the end of the day, because sun is behind you and the panorama is absolutely amazing).

If his wish is to go now, why stop him? It is a chance for him, don't be selfish. Think what would happen if YOU had a similar chance. Be honest! Would you say "No, thank you"...? We speak about...PARIS here!

BUT...if he goes WITHOUT you, don't let him show any of his pictures taken in Paris, don't listen any story about what he saw there - just tell him: "I want you to show everything to me right there, don't spoil the surprise...!" :)

Figure out how to meet him in Paris. Period.

As one who did something similar, took the whole Europe for a study trip, then traveled (all of Europe for 2 months!) and always figured I would travel all the time. I was going to be rich, and travel the world, go back to Europe every two years or so....I'm older now. REAL LIFE got in the way. I have a home and a family...even before I met my husband, I had a cat, and leaving her for a month at a time was irresponsible!

I only JUST, almost 30 years later, made my second trip! And even then, had to FIGHT my husband on it for TWO YEARS! He simply didn't believe it would ever happen. I had to squirrel away every penny for two years, not let him have access to that account AT ALL, so WE could do it!

Your boyfriend gets that...If he doesn't do it NOW, while he CAN, he might never be able to do it at all!

Real life will get in the way.

YOU need to go, too. You can do it. You have to make it happen. Save up the money. Meet him during the last days of his study, travel with them. Or just meet them for Paris.

Or reevaluate your relationship. Maybe it's not what you thought it was. Maybe YOU have been romanticizing something that isn't valid anymore. You might just want to cut your losses, and end things. Maybe you aren't worth that much to him. Maybe nothing is. Maybe he's actually depressed, and trying to work his way out of it.

The obsession with shallow, unimportant things like drinking and facebook makes me wonder what is REALLY important to him.

If you love something let it go and if it comes back then that's how you know... Jk, I say get a bunch of your girl friends and plan a vaca to Paris together. Show him that he does not have control of your happiness. I know how hard it is to just bite the bullet on situations like this but I think he would love you more if you let him go.

Ask yourself "why is it that he didn't invite me?" Or maybe ask him and see what he says. Since he is your first you are most likely attached and that is fine but try to figure out what his motives are. Are you crowding him or pressuring him? Talk to him or try to reflect on the relationship and figure it out yourself because there is a reason for everything.