Ladies (mainly college age): would you date a guy like me?

It seems like the only problem you are having in getting a girls interest is that you haven't realized that you really are not interested in having a girlfriend. Based on everything you wrote, you seem to be kind of annoyed with the general demographic where you are at, find their behaviors and attitudes obnoxious and immature, and are just generally turned off by your peers and the atmosphere around you. You are there to learn. You are more mature than a lot of them, or at least you perceive it that way. And you don't connect with many of the people there because you come from different backgrounds. It is unlikely that you are going to find someone that is drawn to you if you are completely withdrawn from the people in your environment. It is completely okay to feel this way. It's just not okay to expect people to react positively to the way this affects your behavior and attitude towards others. Their behavior is completely normal to them, even if it seems abnormal and immature to you. So it is not a bad thing that you are feeling this way. You're feelings are not wrong... they are just not conducive to building a healthy relationship at this particular point in your life. My suggestion would be to try to accept that these people are a little different and that that is okay, but that you being different from them is okay too. Just be comfortable in your skin. Focus on what is important but take the time to go out and do what you enjoy. You may find that once you take that wall down, there might be someone thats willing to take a step inside and get to know you. But if it really is not what you are interested in, then that is okay. Just accept that the fact that you don't really like the type of girls you meet and are not interested in dating them. If you don't want to date right now it is a completely mature decision and one that you should be able to make without criticizing yourself for. Just know what you want and own it. ; )

I can save you years and years of problems, because you are already on the track to being totally puzzy-whipped if you somehow magically get some fat chick to lower her standards and date you. You mention that you're not this and not that. Well just what the f*ck are you? Introverted, low-energy, and not the most fun or interesting person out there. Those are your own words. After reading that, do you think you sound like a guy that even a retarded giraffe would want to date?! You also have received the ultimate kiss of death in female labelling: the "nice guy"

If you can actually get your head out of your rectum and stop thinking like a little *****, I can absolutely guarantee that you are 100% fixable. But if you want to believe bullshit sayings like "she's out there, just wait," and (my favorite) "just be yourself," you just see where that road leads. It leads to you getting so frustrated with the unfairness of life that you end up climbing a water tower with a semi-automatic rifle.

First off, never ask women what they want in a guy. They are full of sh1t. Watch the guys that women go after. Are they sensitive, caring, romantic, thoughtful, and not afraid of their feminine side?

Here, you know what? Just read the article on the left sidebar in the website I'm gonna put in the sources block, below. The article is called "Why not 'Just Be Yourself?'"

Then read every other article on that website. They are free. They work. Guaranteed. If you are still so socialized that you cannot see the truth, even after reading through that encyclopaedia of knowledge about women, then you will always be "just friends," and "such a nice guy."

Free Your MIND!!!

Well, Im not in college, I'm in high school. But you say that you are in a school where most of the girls are kind of the rich-classy "living off of daddy's money" kind of girls and then later you mention that you grew up in the middle of nowhere and enjoy camping and outdoors type stuff. There's your problem. You aren't doing anything wrong your just surrounded by women that are so much opposite of you that there is no way to form a relationship with them.

I did not read all of what was there because you wrote too much, Here's what i think: people who go to university with their highschool friends are missing out, they should be meeting knew people rather than clingning to their past, so dont worry about dating those girls. If your in college to learn, not to goof off, why are you wondering about dating girls any way? (just wondering). Also, although you deny this, you seem very driven, focussed, and mature, and women like that, its also cool that your not one of those retarded party animal college guys. Money should not be an issue, guys who get money from their daddy's are not attractive, usually big losers. Sounds like you would do well with a mature girls, so you may have to wait a while for some of them to grow up.

Actually u sound like my boyfriend soya, u r the type I would date. The problemisnt u, itsthepeople ur surrounded by. They arent open minded and have a set view of what they THINK they want. Odds are, they'll find out the hard way that what they think they want is not what is best for them. Honestly, dont worry about it. You sound like an awesome guy surrounded by the wrong girl. And im sure there are a few girls that are into u but arent saying anything, arent sure of their feelings or Trying to push away their feelings for you due to what their clique may think or the fact that ur not usually the type they'd go for. So really, dont worry too much about it.

You sound like a guy that I might be interested in!! lol I'm in college too! I dont really do much...I'm VERY shy..it takes a lot of courage for me to even talk to guys! I love the outdoors, but may need a little push to do some things! lol

Could you check my questions out and maybe answer a few? :)

well, yeah, i would, maybe...

i mean i can be low key and quiet sometimes, but i like funny, happy, playful guys. Not that i would dismiss you because you don't fit that sort of type, but i sometimes get the feeling that when a guy isn't energetic and enthusiastic around me then he doesn't like me. maybe that's what's happening? you seem disinterested because you're quiet, not shy, but low-energy. and you're not sensitive or compassionate? well, i would keep that piece of information to myself...

but if you actually got to know a girl and really liked her, then being playful and happy and energetic might come naturally without you realising it... i like sarcastic humour, but sometimes it can sound arrogant.

but yes, all in all people are more attracted to enthusiastic, ambitious, fun people. but there are always exceptions.

Okay from what I managed to read I figured out that you are a very analytical person and you analyzing yourself lead to well... blabbing. You sound like a great guy that a girl would be lucky to have but you need to know how to keep them interested. You don't seem very laid back, how about trying that out?

I would. And I am sure there is a girl near you who feels the same way. I know that this is really no advice but, I find it is easier to find the one you have been looking for when your not looking for them at all. Back to the there is a girl near that feels the same, alot of girls feel this way, trust me. Finding them is the hard part but, I am sure you will in time.

I wish you the best of luck in college and in finding your girl.

I lost you at sarcastic. I don't like sarcasm, I don't think it's nice, but I know tons of women who would love you so...