Is my girlfriend to demanding?

I'm sorry, but the relationship is over. You two qualify for, at least, four of my major 'signs that the relationship doomed' criteria.

She has expectations.

She's not really being honest with herself.

She's not being honest with her family.

You want her to change.

You feel like your being taken advantage of.

You guys have a communication problem.

When it comes to relationships I hold love rather low on the must-have-list. It's sort of the glue that keeps all the critical elements together, but if you observe other relationships you will observe, that some relationships lacking love can still function and you will see loving relationships that still end with divorce.

Communication is the pinnacle key that keeps relationships working. Look at yourself, your not on Yahoo answers because you need advice. Your here because communication has failed, and your desperate for a solution. Unfortunately this is not a problem that you, alone, can fix.. which brings me back to communication. Any relationship that has communication can be fixed. Think about marriage, people stand and make tremendous promises to each other; vows meant to last a life time. Funny thing about marriage vows, you can break every last one, and if you can talk it out, you can work it out. Meanwhile, you can be the most faithful, loving, committed man on the face of the planet, if you two can not talk with one another... relationship is over. No sharing of soul = no soulmate. No sharing of thoughts = "I don't even know him/her anymore!"

No relationship is truly equal, but the feeling that your being used will undermine all of the feelings that solidify relationships. It's not really the reason why relationships break apart, it's just a symptom of a dying relationship.

Acceptance. Your not really accepting of who she is, you'd like her to change. Maybe not her personality, but her behavior, you'd like to change her expectations, you'd like her to change the way she deals with her parents. This is never going to happen, you can't change anyone but yourself, you can influence anyone (love, blackmail, torture) but change is completely individualist in motive.

In general, if you want any relationship to last... get rid of expectations. Expect nothing, hope for everything. She can't control you, she can't make you want to give things, expectations are predicated on ownership, guarantees, and promises. You can't keep every promise, life comes with no guarantees, and no one owns anyone else. A relationship is not an agreement to mutual enslavement, or oppression. Issues with expectations goes so far beyond relationships, it's almost a different problem entirely, but my advice to anyone, is to replace all expectations with hope. Hope that parents feed their children, hope that loved ones will be kind, hope that your partner will be there for you. This way you can still build a life with glory, achievement, disappointment or regret, but your not completely in dismay when someone doesn't meet expectations... cuz the only thing you can expect from expectations is disappointment and dismay. Even when things go great... you don't get to appreciate it! Why? Because you expected it, you took it for granted, it wasn't a blessing or a hope fulfilled. I hate expectations!

Lastly she's kind of living in the moment, and not looking at the big picture. In order to maintain this relationship, she is having to skirt around the truth and embrace some self-deception and some care-free ignorance. She wants to believe that everything will be ok, but she's been running from obstacles and hard truths to maintain that believe. Deception is hard to deal with, self-deception is even more insidious. She's running from issues, and as the proverb goes 'the only way to lie is to keep lying'. She is not facing problems, she's running from them, and it's creating larger problems. She's probably waited too long to tell her parents, and deep down she knows it. She's avoided because it might be a problem, and now it IS going to be a problem. What's her parents going to say when they find this has been going on behind their backs for 2 years? She obviously cares about what her family thinks, when the **** hits the fan, she's not going to leave them. She's afraid, she'll be submissive to them, so she's not going to work it out with her parents, she'll obey them instead. I don't think they'll be pleased, and typically from what I know of arabic culture, they will have expected you to 'Man-up', many arabic and persian cultures still place a great deal on the guy introducing himself and asking to date their daughter.

Anyway I've written too much. I don't have much hope for your relationship, but I have hope for you. And I hope you can come to a decision and stick to that decision... because honestly that's the only solution you can to expect work.

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Demanding Girlfriend

You are headed at about 100 mph into a manipulative and controlling relationship. AT NOT time is it EVER acceptable for another person to "ALLOW" you to do anything by yourself. You are an adult and I am pretty sure already have a mother who told you what to do with your hair for the first 18 years of your life. This IS NOT acceptable. IT is ABUSIVE and if you give into the treatment by her you will be setting presidence for other things in the future of your relationship... Today it's a haircut, Tomorrow it's your friends... Her naughty bits can't be THAT good... and trust me there are PLENTY of women out there who will treat you with WAY more respect... This girl obviously does NOT respect you and only likes that she can and will CONTROL you... I say run screaming as far and as fast as you can from her...

At your age this should not b happening. I think you know that, right?

Ordinarily, I would advise you test her commitment to you by saying a) she tells her parents & thus allows you guys to have an adult relationship or b) you will dump her. This tests how important you are to her- is she willing to lose you? If so, then she's not worth even your affection, never mind hundreds of your dollars for expensive gifts.

HOWEVER I see you've already split with her EIGHT TIMES???? I know you love her but sometimes love is cruel and situations just don't work out, sweetie. This is one of those situations. Dump her FOR GOOD. even when she comes running back, hard as it will be YOU MUST IGNORE HER. she is wasting your life, my lovely.

Sorry to break it to you but it ain't meant to be.

You seem really nice and like you deserve a lot better than dating a manipulative, cowardly woman who only let's you date like your both 15 years of age.

Good luck, friend.

Sounds abit of a Gold Digger to me

the problem is you, if you see a train coming your way are you gonna stand there and get hit?Stop making excuses for her for treating you like crap! and why do you plan your dates around her time not yours, is it because she's got another boyfriend I think she is cheating on you.

Silver Knife

i recommend a machete.