Yahoo Answers is shutting down on May 4th, 2021 (Eastern Time) and beginning April 20th, 2021 (Eastern Time) the Yahoo Answers website will be in read-only mode. There will be no changes to other Yahoo properties or services, or your Yahoo account. You can find more information about the Yahoo Answers shutdown and how to download your data on this help page.
Trending News
How to convince someone who got raped to tell someone?
My friend got raped earlier today and I am the first person he has told. He refuses to tell his family, friends, Or police. He doesn't think anyone will believe him, because "he is overweight and not good looking". I tired to talk to him about it, but he was hurting too much when we spoke about it. How can i lightly convince him to tell someone?
I know this is a very rough situation, but telling someone is the right thing to do.
I'm just thankful he wasn't hurt and the guy used a condom. But I can't tell anyone for him, because I don't know exactly what happened, all i know was he was raped in a van when he was getting out of his car.
10 Answers
- Anonymous10 years agoFavorite Answer
you should explain to him that if he tells someone in a professional capacity like the police then they will respect his confidentiality and they will give him the support that he needs and make it easier for him. also there is the risk of infection that he will need to get checked out for his own health. try to not be too blunt with him though, he will probably not respond well to that in his current emotional state. try being sensitive but to the point.
- ZundenLv 610 years ago
This is going to feel like betraying him, but you should call the police for him, and take him to the hospital. They'll run a rape kit, which will likely prove that at least something happened, even if he can't prove legally who did it. They'll also make sure he didn't get any STDs or anything, which is necessary after a rape. That's he's not the hottest person ever doesn't mean he wasn't raped. This is going to be a painful journey for him, but I have never heard of someone who tried to tell and get their case prosecuted who regretted doing so. Be gentle with him because he's in pain, but if he won't report it himself, you should. He'll be mad at you for a while, but he'll cool down and eventually be thankful that you did this for him.
- Anonymous10 years ago
He really just needs some time to cope with it. Because if he cant even understand what happened, theres no way he could really get help. Just give him a week and see if you can level with him. Assure him that everything's gonna be ok and that you will always be there for him. Its a good sign that he actually told someone. I know you'll be able to figure this out. Good luck!
- 10 years ago
You can, I guess, try convincing him that if he don't report the said insident, there might be other victims to follow. That its all up to him to stop this person from commiting another crime to someone else. If believing in his statement is the problem, well, it takes more than the physical looks to gather evidence to be used in the filing of case and eventually court hearings. Hope this helps...
- How do you think about the answers? You can sign in to vote the answer.
- Anonymous10 years ago
well let him know that everyone will be there for him, and when he does tell someone, tell him that you will be there to support him. If he says that no one will believe him, tell him that if you believed him that everyone else will too. You can also tell him that it will help him a lot by getting help and it will give him justice. Plus to add on to that tell him that he will be preventing other victims by this person.
Good luck, and I really do hope that he will tell someone else and gets the justice he deserves <3
- 10 years ago
This is tricky, but I would say dont tell anyone but keep nugding him to do it himself. I can see why he doesnt want to tell anyone, because he thinks people will think its for attention. But honestly he does need to tell someone but on his own. But if he starts acting different and getting paranoid about things then tell somone cause he will need to go to therapy
- Anonymous10 years ago
You can be the person who tells thereby asking to be an anonymous tipster. He needs to report the incident as embarassing as it will become to him & parents.
- Anonymous10 years ago
be the good friend and tell...
start with the police, they have trained people to handle this and will know what you should do...
edit:
you tell the police what he told you, he obviously told you he was raped...
- Anonymous10 years ago
he could have an STI that's why he needs to tell someone.
- Anonymous10 years ago
Then he is responsible for the next person that the person assaults.