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In your opinion, am I too young and naive to make this decision at 17?
I've had it in my head the past few years, but now I am positive,
I am not going to have children.
I know this because I am ambitious. I have dreams and goals, I am going to go to school to be a cardiothoracic surgeon. I know that something like children will only hinder me.
In your opinion, do you think I am still too young and naive to make this kind of decision?
As an added note, I'm not saying I hate kids, or marriage, I do hope I meet that someone, I'm just saying that in my opinion, I think kids will only get in the way of my dreams.
21 Answers
- ErasedBlissLv 610 years agoFavorite Answer
No, don't listen to what everyone else will tell you. I'm 18 right now and I have no desire to have children either. I just don't think of kids in my future, I'd rather stay away from the American Dream or whatever. Good for you, you're not listening to what everyone else wants you to do.
EDIT: I don't care if the rest of the people on here don't agree with me, I don't want to be trapped because I have kids.
- ?Lv 44 years ago
I won't say that it truly is youthful or naive, yet i might say that it assumes plenty. It assumes which you are going to choose the comparable issues 10-15 years from now which you truly choose now. It assumes which you are going to finally end up interior the profession you choose to finally end up in. however you could result there, it additionally assumes which you would be able meaning you definitely can't have little ones. It assumes you will in no way evaluate adopting a baby at a later age. good now, not having little ones is an exceptionally clever determination. you have have been given college, med college, and all that stable stuff beforehand of you. sure, good now, little ones are a undesirable thought. yet 10-15 years from now, you may nicely be making a music an fairly diverse track. i assume what i'm truly asserting is which you will in basic terms make judgements in accordance with the place you're good now. good now, you recognize you choose to circulate to scientific college. circulate with that yet don't be afraid to depart your self open to diverse opportunities.
- Anonymous10 years ago
alright, i'm not going to be mean here but as a 17 year old, you are a bit too young to make that decision. you are not even in college yet. once you get settled into your career, THEN i would make the final decision. many people change their minds because right now as a young teen, you are only looking at the broad picture. you don't know what is in store for you for the future. i'm not trying to convince you to change your mind, but by you saying "i think kids will only get in the way of my dreams" is selfish. what happens if you do happen to have a child? you are just going to give them away like they are just some teddy bear? i think by that age, you will not give them away. (unless you ABSOLUTELY despise children that much). but i say, you are too young & naive to make that big decision now. about 90% of women change their minds of not having children, it's just at this age, you do not see the whole picture so it's difficult to just make a decision right like that.
my aunt doesn't have children and she is 36. she feels that it is too late to have children, but she really regrets it. most women have children when they are about their early 30's. if you have children too late, your child will graduate when you retire (and frankly, that could be awkward) so that's why my aunt isn't going to have children.
but you have a lot of time, don't stress on it. work on following your dreams & stabilizing your career before you think of children. when the time is right, you are settled with your career and love life, THEN think about it. but now, it way too early.
Source(s): personally. - Anonymous10 years ago
17 is when you graduate and begin at life so no, you're not too young. Most people I know who are 17 still don't care and want to party. There's not many people like you now days I think you should stick with your dreams and start after you graduate high school or if you already have. If you follow your dreams now you'll probably be alot happier and you can always change your mind later if you want, so don't worry and try your best. And don't care what anybody else thinks :)
I'm 13 and I want to be like that when I'm 17
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- Anonymous10 years ago
If you get married, you will have a husband to deal with this topic. Children are not created by one person. It is a team thing, like a duet. You are not to young to make this decision. You are just missing the other half of you that will help complete this decision. And we both know, mistakes happen.
Source(s): also 17 - 10 years ago
Your beliefs and decisions could change in a matter of time.
If you meet a potential mate, then your opinion could be different, you never know ...
Dreams can change. Plans can change.
Funny, because there was an article on yahoo's main page about Americans deciding to not have kids.
- ?Lv 710 years ago
In my opinion if more people were like you, we wouldn't have so many people with bad childhoods.
One should not have children until they feel they are personally, emotionally and financially ready.
So I think your decision is a good one, some people have children only because society pressure them to have it... but not everyone wants children in life you know? Some people want a career.
- ?Lv 610 years ago
Honestly, i think should wait til you're older to make this decision. you might change your mind, you never know. you might want a child after you are where you wanna be with your career.
Lots of people say they don't want kids, then end up having them and they can't imagine their life without him/her. Your feelings might change so you should just wait and see.
- PossumLv 710 years ago
Yes, your mind will change over the years. You are too young to make this decision. Or, you can make this decision now, but don't expect that you will always feel this way.
- RonLv 710 years ago
I think if this is the way you feel now and it feels right. It is the correct decision. I had similar feelings at your age. I became a father at age 28. We grow,we mature and we change. For now ,it is no worry.