found messages from my husband to other women on facebook offering to send them money is this ok?

He may have been been caught up in a scam. Better check to see what is going on.

How can we possibly answer that without knowing you, the other people involved and what was said in those messages? It also depends on what the company's policy is on it's employees using facebook in the first place. Having said that, all I can really say is, it's obvious you have said something way out of turn which someone has taken offence to and reported it to their boss. Of course it's perfectly legal for the Managers to hold an internal enquiry into your conduct whether at work or out of it especially if it involves other employees. Maybe you should take this as a lesson learnt that you can't just say what you like about anyone to anyone else, especially with someone who has an axe to grind. Many professionals very high up the chain in the past have fallen victim to some off the cuff comment that they made in private and was overheard by someone else. At least they have got yours in print!

Well I understand what you mean as in that's your husband and you don't expect things like that to happen. So I would confront him and tell him he forgot to logout of is facebook and you read a message and you seen that he was flirting with an ex and saying he misses her. The evidence is there and he can't deny it. That's why my boyfriend and I both don't have a Facebook. I don't need all of that added ridiculous drama. Hopefully he's not cheating because he has left you a reason to accuse him of cheating. Ask him if there's something missing in the relationship or if there's something he's seeking through her if he's not cheating and if there's something he wants you to do. Good Luck

It is sad that yet again some husband has gotten caught on facebook cheating, please don't stick your head in the sand and pretend that you misunderstood he is screwing around with his ex and will keep it a secret as long as he can. You have to be smarter than him at this point because he will make you think your the one at fault. CONFRONT HIS A$$ with the proof and see what he says...

Honey, I know you love him and you don't want to believe what you saw. Fact is YOU DID! Don't even bother to question him about it, he'll only deny it and attempt to turn the tables on you. Tell him what you saw and tell him it's over. He is cheating on you, you deserve better than that don't stand for it and don't give him the opportunity to string you along with lies. Get out now.

For a husband to mention he misses a woman..and then having a lady express "miss you baby" & "kisses" to him is obviously not okay.

take a deep breath calm down and stop being S*U*ID you know what you saw right? let the shock ease and then tackle this head on. keep your whits about you am sure your tougher than you think. Think before you act and good luck.

You know what you saw. This is your husband's fault. He's the one who left his facebook on and he is flirting with other woman. He shouldn't do that, it's not right.

What do you mean this can't be right?

Either you saw the msgs or you didnt. This is why women get disrespected and ... deserve what they get at time because you have all the evidence in front of you (as per your question) and you still QUESTION IF HE'S CHEATING???

Of course it's not right. And obviously he is doing more than flirting.. 'I miss you baby" "I'll send money"...wake up and smell the coffee...he is cheating. If it hasn't gotten physical yet...it sure will. Don't try to fool yourself. Pack your bags. Please. It will save you more heartache in the long run.