LGBT: Give me some advice or just your thoughts, please?

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Okay. I'm making this brief.
I've asked a lot of questions about this topic but I have yet to get an answer that actually answers my question lol.
I am just so confused with my sexuality and I have been for a long time. It's so emotionally draining because it's getting to the point where I really want a serious relationship with somebody...anybody for that matter. I've never been into "labeling" but I just really want a solid handle on what exactly I am.

I'm 18 and have always had crushes on guys. I've never had a boyfriend before (quite sad, I know) but have always liked guys and found them cute and I know I would have a relationship with one given the opportunity. However, I am SO undeniably attracted to girls...physically. I look at girls the way guys look at girls lol. It's sickening lmao. But Idk if I can see myself in a relationship with one. At the end of the day, you need more than a physical attraction with someone to have a real relationship and I know that. The truth is the only thing I see stopping me from ever trying a relationship with a girl is because I just can't imagine coming home and introducing her to my family (even though my parents and whole family practically know that I do like girls in some sort of way lol) and I think the whispers and stares we'd get in public would tear me apart and I don't think I could handle it being a self-conscious person to begin with. I'm attracted to men emotionally because they're different than girls and I like that safe feeling and comfort level a man could provide. With a woman though, I feel like would just be a lot to handle...like 2 girls on their period at the same time? That's crazy lol. I know this bisexual girl at work and she has this huge crush on one of the girls that also works with us and today she said something about her... and i said something like, "yeah, she's pretty cute." and then the girl goes, "you can't judge girls..you're not gay." and something inside of me was just like "....i am practically." I just feel like if I was 100% straight, I wouldn't be questioning myself like this...it's ridiculous. Basically, I'm physically attracted to girls, but like the emotional security of a man (even though I am physically into guys as well)...I know this is probably TMI but whenever I think of ....having sex with someone... lol.. I'm always thinking of girls. hardly ever guys. so....i don't even know.

Please help lol.
This is confusing the **** out of me. it's draining, really.

Thoughts? Comments? Advice?
Thanks <3

if you guys read all this THANK YOU.

dreamer · Accepted Answer

This is how i look at it because up until last month i was you just a little older and i had the physical attraction to guys and the emotional attraction to girls. but basically the same boat.

i got into a few physical relationship with a couple of guys. i didn't feel right for me. i wasn't turned on or even happy. i have a girlfriend i love and love being with. 
so i don't call myself a lesbian but i guess i am one. 

i 'sexual orientation' isn't based on who you are attracted to, or at least it shouldn't be. it should be based on who you want to be with. if you only ever want to be with men, you are a straight girl who just recognizes other girls are attractive, lol. 

it's complicated, i know. you'll know when you start being with people real quick if it's right or not. good luck.

Tonks13 · Answer

Everyone questions their sexuality.
Everyone.
Even if you end up being totally straight, there's nothing wrong with questioning. I started out the same way as you, dating guys, liking guys, but feeling physically attracted to women. Now I've gone deeper and discovered I have feelings for guys and girls. When it comes down to it, you need to see if you develop feelings for girls or guys, or both. I don't know a method for this, sorry. And if it helps, there are women out there who can be everything emotionally a man can be, and vice versa. Personalities are not based on gender. If you ever have any more questions, feel free to e-mail me, an_tonks_13@yahoo.com

Sweet Judy · Answer

Hello dear,  I think you are gay, and I think you would be attracted to a very masculine woman!
I think if you sexually are attracted to women, that means you are gay!
If I were you, I would not be afraid of what people will say.....everyone has to live their life the way they want to!
If you family already knows you are attracted to women, then they won't be surprised when you bring home a girl friend!
Do you think Ellen DeGeneres is sexy?  She has the guy vibe, but she is a woman!  Where as her wife, Portia is very feminine!
I am a totally straight women, and I have never looked at a women, and thought about having sex, never!
I think you are gay!

? · Answer

I can relate in some way but enough about me.  You might be bisexual.  So just try going out with a girl and see how it feel also go out with a guy. You see some bisexual people are more inclined towards one gender that the other your case might be similar to that. Good luck with figuring out your sexuality and hope I helped :)

beaner4LFE85 · Answer

If the only thing stopping you from pursuing a relationship with another girl is what pple think of you consider this
"those that matter don't care, and those who care don't matter"
-dr. Seuss ( so my friend says)
Experiment a little with both sex's then see what you liked or didn't to help you make your decision

Anonymous · Answer

I always look at girls and in my head I say: oh this girl is gorgeous or this girl is so ugly, eww.
but I am 100% straight.
but what you feel I think it's normal, because, all my friends I know them are straight too and sometimes they say: "Look at that girl, I could become a lesbian for her".

~mz. songz~ · Answer

Idk have sex with women and marry a man. Just that simple. It shouldnt be sickening though its you..

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