stressed out and pregnant?

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I'm 15 weeks pregnant and I'm 18. I'm a college student and yes, I know I'm young but it's all set and done now. I have just gotten over missing my mom and started building a relationship with her I still haven't told my dad who lives far away because I just haven't felt ready to. I haven't really told anyone because I just don't want to talk about it. Don't get me wrong; its been behind my mind 24/7 and it's really stressed me out because I didn't want to hurt my dad. My mom called me this morning and told me that she told my dad -which was a relief- but told me that he cried and thought it was his fault. I feel like the I was started to feel better about my pregnancy before she told him and now I feel like I'm back at square one stressed and need to get my dad through the initial shock. I know stressing out is effecting my baby and that I shouldn't stress but it's easier said than done. It's effecting the relationship I have with my baby because I don't have an emotional attachment for it yet. I feel horrible because I want to love my baby and I fear I'll never love my baby. Any advise? I've have reached a breaking point and really don't know what to do.

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

You are an adult now, regardless of whether you are considered a young one or not, and you are now a mother. Accept that.

Once you have accepted that, then you need to start acting like one. What I mean by this, is that you need to stop worrying about other people's opinions of you and your child, and focus on preparing for the wonderful new bundle of joy you are about to bring into this world.

At least your parents know now, so that should be a huge relief for you since that is the hardest part of everybody finding out. Now that it's over, just breathe. No amount of stress will help you there.

Stop worrying about yourself, because you've got someone else to worry about now! Enjoy being pregnant, because, like you said, it's all set and done now.

And don't worry about loving your baby. The first time you hold your little one you will be completely in love!

Good luck. :)

Anonymous · Answer

i know when people say dont stress its easier said then done because i get stressed out too with money and housing etc etc (and im only 17) dont take on your dads stress and worries because that wont help anyone he may just need time to think about things and when he's ready im sure he will come and talk to you. And as for the whole not feeling attached to your baby yet is ok, some women dont feel that love until they hold their baby for the first time. believe me....this year i had to give birth at 18 weeks pregnant to my gawjuss baby girl Evie because she had downs syndrome and a severe heart condition and she wouldnt of made it to full term let alone outside the womb and when i held her for the first time it was like a slap around the face...the amount of love you have is untrue and then when you get pregnant again your next worry will be "can i love this one as much as my first born" because you think its not possible but it is possible. So sorry to say this but dont stress out about it everything will sort itself out soon and think happy thoughts :) good luck

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