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? asked in Family & RelationshipsFriends · 10 years ago

What should i do about my friend? Did i do the right thing?

Hi, I'm 16 going on 17 next month but, my friend ( that happens to be a girl, im a boy ) anyways has been friends since i moved here in 5th grade. Anyways today like 2 hours ago i ended our friendship because she keeps breaking our promises like in 8th grade ( im a juinor now ) but in 8th grade i told her i liked a girl and i told her to promise not to tell anybody about it before i told and she said "i promise" anyways i told her and a couple days later i got on facebook and yes i remember it like it was yesterday! anyways my friends > other best friend knew about it because of her and her best friend told her on her facebook wall! and believe me i was mad! but i didnt end the friendship because im a really nice guy and i thought it would be silly if i did that so anyways the years move by and they arent best friends and i guess i took her best friends spot i am now her best friend ( the same who promised if u got confused ) anyways i dont believe her at all it's very hard to trust her anymore anyways she promised we would hang out last week but no that got changed just because she didnt feel well the next day and today i asked her again she said she doesnt know and i just got tired of it and just ended the friendship! i told her i hate her and she asked 'y' and i still have not answered her! but anyways her boyfriend ( which is my friend since 7th grade, never lied to me ) told me that she was crying about it and i told him oh well and she said she is hurt about it and im like whatever im done! so i stoped talking to him too! but idk what to do. please help me! I dont know what to do

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  • Anonymous
    10 years ago
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    This can be frustrating but your friend is human and all though eighth grade will live in your heart forever always try to move past things. We all make mistakes we arent proud of but it happens and sometimes its better to forgive and forget. As for now, not hanging out with you could be on a number of reasons. Some may be because shes a girl and she has her "monthly time". Sometimes she just isnt having such a great week maybw if she feels sick ask her if theres anything you guys can talk about. We also all have those frustrating weeks where we seem to think that a particular person is so upsetting and our minds retrace back to every little detail that we somehow connect to make it seem like they are the bad guy. And im not saying thats what happened to youu but a spur of the moment ending of the friendship is a symptom of what i just described. Obviously, we cant chAnge the past but if we didnt have it who knows you could be in a worse place. You could be in a better place too who knows it just shows you how important the past is. And the past is comprised of what you do in the present. So what im saying basically is mend this problem. Simply go to her explain to her eveythig youve told us. About how you coukdnt trust her about how sensitive her breaking promises is to you. Say your sorry and ask for forgiveness. Then with time she will understand, everything will heal and perhaps your honesty will change some of her habits.

  • Anonymous
    10 years ago

    I would not end the relationship with her. i dont think that those are things you should end a relationship with. i would give her one more chance and tell her she has to stop or you cant be her friend anymore. if she really is your friend if you say you didnt mean she will understand. hope this helps :)

  • 10 years ago

    When deciding what to do, keep this in mind:

    "It is prosperity that gives us friends, adversity that proves them."

    And also:

    "A true friend walks in as the rest of the world walks out."

    Good luck! :]

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