My mom makes me pay rent but doesn't make a family friend pay anything at all? Do you think this is fair?

Hi Daisy,

No I don't think it's fair, and I don't understand why she wouldn't let you save more money. Isn't it a parent's job to prepare their children for the world? The best case scenario here is that she's secretly saving your money for you so that you can get a car or move out.

Unfortunately, since the house or lease is in your mom's name, she gets to make the rules. So here's what I would do: Go to the DMV to get an I.D. (if you don't already have one). Then go to a bank and open a free checking or savings account. Ask your employer to direct-deposit your check. If they can't, then the minute you get your paycheck, deposit it. Your mother cannot legally take money from your account. Start buying your own groceries and necessities, doing your own laundry and cleaning up after yourself. As soon as you have enough for two month's rent, move out with a friend.

First, it is not your house it is your Mom's house and she makes the rules. You should pay something but it should be proportionate to your income. If Mom is taking 75% of your income that is way too high. The family friends should be paying, talk to Mom about it, ask her why, ask her she thinks it is fair for you to pay so much and the friend to pay nothing.

Maybe you should open a savings account at a local credit union or bank and deposit most of your check, bring home what you think is a fair amount to pay Mom and tell her you have begun saving your money to go back to school or to move out. Or, a car.

I could understand it only if your mom were taking the money and depositing it in a bank account in your name (and hers). If not, your mom is a moron.

Choose a proper moment, and sit down with your mom. Respectfully inquire what she does with the share she takes from your pay check, and then ask why that does not apply to "all" equally?

Don't be surprised if she, by remote chance, says she is in fact depositing it in an account for you. She must then prove it. You can then point out any account must be in two names, otherwise should something happen, uncle Sam will pocket the entire sum.

If she trusts you, the account must be in your name first and then hers. Any bank will recommend doing that.

It's not fair. Tell your mom the situation and flat out ask her why. Good luck.

thats not really reasonable if i got a job i would definitely help in rent and all that stuff.

But she should at least help since ur 18 and have college/university and want to save and get a car.

Its not fair at all. Ask ur mom d reason

Yes its fair. I consider her a guest of your family.

I'd move out, while stop giving her money.