Is my interest in this girl genuinely real? Do I really like her?

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First of all I must admit that I WAS an extremely shallow person.  I get a lot of compliments from women about how handsome, stylish, and charming I am which has inflated my ego.  It may sound cocky and arrogant and it is but that's how I was in the past; a huge douche bag until I met this amazing woman.  This woman is not a 10 on the "hotness scale" but she is fairly attractive but somewhat homely.  I used to date attractive women so my friends make fun of me for even talking to this woman but I don't even care.  The more I talk this woman the more I am attracted to her.

She is very charismatic, funny, and incredibly intelligent and interesting which I love about her.  She is petite with short red hair and black glasses.  We have long, interesting, and stimulating conversations on every topic imaginable.  I can't help but stare into her green eyes and smile as my heart is lifted with warm enlightenment.  My friends find her 'ugly' but she is the most beautiful woman I have ever met and her presence alone makes my heart race.  She is not the tall model-like women I have dated in the past but her beauty makes the others look unattractive.  This woman is the very definition of enlightenment and enchantment.

To others she is nerdy but to me she is the most beautiful woman I have seen and I am so grateful to be given the privilege of being her friend.  All I wanted to do with women is mess around and have sex but I just want to hold her, cherish her, and tell her how beautiful she is.  I do not care if I never get to date or even marry this woman as long as I can see her smile on a daily basis and know she is the prototype of the perfect woman.  Thanks to her, I can appreciate the true beauty of every person in this world as I learned that physical looks are nothing but bull s h i t and do not matter.  

Are these feelings real?  Is she the one? I just hope that this isn't a stupid phase because I never want to break her heart, I want this person to be in my life until the end even if she is with another man.  But I'd like to be with her instead of course.  I'm sorry for ranting and writing this long question but I just can't help but talk about her I can't get her off my mind.  If you managed to read the entire thing I'd like to thank you from the bottom of my heart.  And please, do not be afraid to voice your opinion! =)

Alexandra Briony · Accepted Answer

Welcome to the real world!

Attraction involves the heart and mind as well as the eyes.

It sounds to me as if you have found a real woman and have taken the time, effort and care to find out who she is, what she is and what makes her tick.

Carry on the way you are and you will be able to answer your own question.

Good luck and be happy.

ELLY · Answer

This is the most romantic thing I have ever read. I like how you expressed your emotions. They were very honest and from the bottom of your heart, for which I want to thank you. 
I honestly think what you experience with your girl friend is true and real love. I appreciate the fact you are trying to be careful not to play with her feelings, however I think you should give it a try, that 's what life is about right? There is no guarantees in life and  I believe she understands that. You do not have to rush with marriage proposal but you can be together to get to know each other better, when at I think you will clearly  feel the moment  when you will realize  that  that's the woman you want to wake up with every day , that's the woman you want to love and protect. Personally I think you are very close to it but again do not rush, let it go smoothly, let God be your guidance.
Bless  you

Anonymous · Answer

to be honest, i'm not sure. from reading your post alone, i would say that your feelings are genuine. however, i used to know a guy who made the transition out of shallowness because of one girl. he'd call her the one, he'd say what you have...but in time it'd eventually turn sour. after that, it would continue to be a vicious cycle to the point where he was a bit lost. every girl was 'the one'. every girl he dated seemed to just fill in the blanks of a pre-written poem. anyway, my point is...i don't know if what you're feeling is real or not, but you should definitely go for it. don't count her as 'the one' because you never know what might happen. everything can change.

sorry to be so pessimistic. i hope you win her heart. :) good luck

Anonymous · Answer

Thats great that you found someone you really truly care about for who they are! It absolutely sounds real. Definitely go for it and tell your friends to stop being so shallow and be happy for you. I hope it works out!

Anonymous · Answer

don't hold back because you'll never know. love is all about taking risks. sounds like you really like this girl. don't think what your friends opinions are as you're the one who will spend time with her and they say ... everyone has a soulmate. she may be the one. give it a go.. but take things slowly and all the best

Anonymous · Answer

I trully think that you are in love!! <3 to not care about what your friends say is BIG! just dont act coaky! girls hate that , i know i do. try asking one of her friends if she feels the same way about you.

star still sittin pretty billingsley · Answer

I kinda agree with the first answer but you really sound like you like her a lot and you sound like a really cute and sweet guy just go for it and see what happens ;D

Gyrl · Answer

I agree With the first guy. Just make sure she's happy too.

Anonymous · Answer

I think they sure are!... make sure you realize how beautiful
she is in every way (=   - you seem like a good guy.

Mella · Answer

any guy that goes as far to do this on yahoo answers has got to be an annoying awkward tool.

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