How do i handle this? What can i do to prepare that my parents won't be around in the future? :(?

I am sure you are already doing all you can to spend quality time with them and make them comfortable.

As for you personally; try to find something outside this environment, that will stimulate your interests and talent in the meantime. When their time comes, you can use this as a living tribute to them and all they have given you in spirit. :D

Peace and Blessings

(((Scooter)))

Same thing with my parents in poor health, older and in and out of the ER. It scares me a lot and I don't know if I can handle it either. My dad talks a lot more about his stuff like house, the will, burial info...it is all in order and he has showed me where it all is. That is helpful. They have planned all the burial stuff and have it in order too, and that takes a bit of the load off of my mind because at least I know they will get what they want in terms of their burial wishes.

Still the rest in terms of the funerals is horrible to think of, saying goodbye, the aftermath of not having them anymore...I don't know what can make that better.

Scooter, this answer is not in the mental health category, but it may have some practical help. Make sure you know where their wills and trusts are. Do you know where they insurance information is? Find out who the executor/trustee is. What are your parents' funeral and burial/cremation desires. Are they funerals prepaid? What about their end of life health desires? Did they sign medical directives on their preferences? are you the designee? Are their desires on prolonging life if they are in a persistent vegetative state known to you? are they in writing? are your siblings on board? It may only give you peace of mind indirectly and it may actually create friction but judging from your postings over the last few years you are the one in your family most likely to have to man up on those issues.

My father died a few years ago. He prepaid his funeral, he made sure my brother knew where everything was. It was not easy to see him go, but at least there were none of the stupid fights afterwards some families have. And yes my brother got a little extra for having to deal with all the paperwork, tax returns, changing bank accounts, etc.

I'm not an expert on this kind of thing, but if I was in that situation, I would start spending a lot more time with them. That way, I could feel more comfortable with them passing, and their strength would get me through it.

My grandpa's mom was killed in a car accident just a few days ago, and he's been taking it pretty rough. It's unfortunate that his mother was killed just like that, and he didn't have time to spend a little more time with her. So you should take the opportunity to get closer to them before they pass.

Again, my expertise is not in this kind of thing, but I hope I helped to some extent. Good luck to you.

I am not a expert on this, my mom died when she was 42 I was 17. my sister died a few years ago and my Dad died last year a few days before Christmas. Nothing prepares you for this, even if you know its coming. My suggestion is you talk to someone who can help you through it. I knew that my sister was going to die and was in the room with her, so I just had to handle it the best way I knew how to, and still I was not ready for it. Talk to your other family members too. I hope that you find a good answer here to help you.

just be with them as much as possible because once they are dead they are no longer there to talk to. i think that is why some sufferers will go and talk to the grave stone and grave of the dead loved one or dead parents. try to keep them interested in the Bible, so that you can see them again in the resurrection of the dead. stay in good health yourself and remember that while their death will be hard on you, they will have wanted their beloved child to live-on. crying will not kill you. just get the most out of seeing them now so that you do not have to say, "i wish i had been nicer to them in their old age".

Oh Scooter, I've been wondering what to say that may help you...at times I'm so inadequate and this is one of those times. . .

I will keep you and your mother and father in my prayers...I know you will have all the strength you need as the difficult times in life come to you.

God bless and keep you and family.

Much love

Sarah (((HUGS)))

Well, my mom died 12 years ago and my dad died 2 years ago. My sis helped and helps me so much with their disappearance... I know it's hard, but when I think about how my mom used to work hard, take care of us and never complain, I find the power to go on and on... Best wishes to you, Scooter!

Scooter I think It's all been said so I would have to say all the above. There are some very good answers. God Bless you my friend

you can just learn from there mature adultness.ask them how they felt when there parents werent around.