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My friend is pregnant, and I don't know how to feel...?
One of my good friends is pregnant at 19, and not ready to have a baby. But she has chosen to keep it, which is totally against my moral code.
I know it's such a hard decision for anybody, and I don't mean to judge her. It just breaks my heart that she may never achieve what she once dreamed of for herself; i.e., going to college, etc.
I also don't know how good of a home this baby is going to have. The father seems as if he's not going to be present, and she is struggling with bills as it is.
On the other hand, I am happy for her. I know this pregnancy wasn't intentional, but I also know she has always wanted to have children, even though this is a very inconvenient time.
I am also worried for selfish reasons - I'm scared that we may be growing apart with this. I am not going to be having a baby anytime soon, nor do I want to. I have different goals, I want to go to university and further my education, have a great career, etc.
It's selfish that I feel so sad about the end of our lives without this pregnancy, because I am sad for myself, but somehow I can't help it. Human, I suppose.
Any advice?
6 Answers
- 10 years ago
Personaly speaking, I believe an abortion should only be carried out when the mothers life is in danger (if that's what you ment by keeping it)
She could always have the baby, then give it up for adoption? Or to someone she knows?
Don't worry about what may seem "selfish thoughts", I'd say it's normal,' plus your worried about this baby, it's home and it's mother too, so your good in my books.
All I can really say, is take care of your friend, the coming months will be hard for her, and she could use a friend at her side to help her.
Good luck. To you, and her.
Would you mind answering mine?
- 10 years ago
Told a former friend of mine that my mom had chosen to have 6 kids. She said my mother aught to have had an abortion. Tell me, which of my brothers should she have killed? Fool and idiot. Each one of them has shown potential for greatness and worthiness of time on this earth. In all of your evident ignorance and vicious, all consuming selfishness, who are you to determine which life aught to be kept and which should be cast aside like a barrier to some imagined higher destiny? More importantly, if a baby ISN'T wanted, simply closing your legs is the recommended solution. I applaud this friend of yours. That she would take the responsibility for this life that she brought into the world is admirable and commendable. Hopefully, the child shall inherit some measure of her nature. You can tell her for me that I think she is on the road to being a good mother. Oh, and tell her I said congrats on the baby. Even if the circumstances are hard, the new life should be well received into the world.
Source(s): My four brothers and my sister who my mother gave up a VERY profitable future to stay home and raise instead of "aborting"(murdering :O ) or letting the TV raise us. By the by, she was told to abort my youngest brother, and, if she didn't, the doctors said she would die. She's still alive today, and so is my youngest knuckle-headed brother. - Anonymous10 years ago
Well, since you feel so much like this, tell you're friend about how you feel and what you think will happen in the future.
- Anonymous10 years ago
I go to school with a guy who knows. Ill call and catch up.
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