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first time sex help!?
I tried to have sex with my fiancé for the first time last night. Long story short, it hurted like hell according to her, and we had to stop.
I never had sex, but I have done some reading about the first time. I did foreplay and tried my best to make her comfortable before we tried to do it. The problem is, she was extremely anxious about it, and couldn't relax at all. she even had to drink a little beforehand to ease her mind.
Are there something I can do to help her ease her mind?
yes it is first time for us both. The thing is, she is Chinese, and is not very sexually active. I never had sex, but I had a bit more experience.
can it be because a thick hymen? I think I will try with artificial lub and some finger exercise for now, and try again when she is more used to the feeling...
4 Answers
- 10 years agoFavorite Answer
Don't push her and assure her that it's ok to wait. Tell her how beautiful she is all the time. Girls are very self conscious about their bodies the first time...don't laugh at anything she does or any sounds she makes. Show her what you like...direct her hands where you want them to be and goooooooo slooooooooow. Lack of lubrication causes sex to be extremely painful. Try KY.
- Anonymous10 years ago
Well, I'm not a expert on this, but I'm not a first time either. For your fiance, it was probably the first time she was having sex as well. This occurs to lots of women and it is because the thin lining near her vaginal area has ripped(probably with some bleeding going on).
And do not be anxious, it might be a bit awkward at first or maybe even a bit scary, but you have to be not so self conscious and just have fun :)
- Anonymous10 years ago
You have to be gentle especially if shes new to sex. You might be too rough on her or possibly you have a large penis and her vagina isn't adjusted. Vaginas need to slowly expand so they don't rip. Try fingering her and gradually add another finger.
- 10 years ago
Try setting a relaxing mood and just be gentle, it shoul be fine after the third time. just don't take to long to do it again.
