If you & your partner have opposite sex drive ?

Sex is one of the big reasons to be together in marriage. Honestly, even though women hate to hear it, sex is one of the few things that interests a man in women and it is something that women use to get a man. No, all the b.s. in the world will not change the facts of that. Just how it is.

Any sex outside of being married to the person is a sin. And in some cases, having sex with the person you are married to is a sin, if you divorced the former spouse for other than them actually cheating on you. This is what God said. The apostle Paul said that if you can control your lusts and urges, it is better to remain single and celibate. If you cannot, then it is good to be married. That should be a clue to most. That should tell you how important sex is in a marriage.

Once married, you are not to deprive your mate of sex. Your bodies belong to one another. You are not to deny your mate because it can lead them to be tempted to cheat. Again, go look at what scriptures say about this. And if you cut them off or will not satisfy them and it leads them to cheat, you cannot say you are a victim in my view. You are merely dealing with the consequences of your choices. Sex builds so much that is good in a couple. It is one of the reasons God gave it to us and also reserved it to marriage. Now an occassional headace which really is a headache is one thing. If a person has legitimate medical issues, that is something which must be considered. Not to be rude, but you know, even if you cant walk, your mouth may still work or your hands will. You still do have to try to care about your mates needs too.

It is a big problem. My wife say's that she enjoys sex but there is no way she keeps up with my desires. She sits and watches the Biggest Loser or Drop Dead Diva, or some episode of Seinfeld she has seen 13 times... and I am just walking around the house trying to figure out why we are not spread eagle on floor going at it. It is a strange circle... my wife shows little interest so I stop trying... I stop trying and the she shows little interest when I do.

Now if we go on vacation, or away for a weekend this incredible thing happens... my wife turns back into this really sexy and aroused woman that had me wrapped around her finger. I just wish I knew a way to get her to be that girl at home... at home all she thinks about is everything but us.

In general, men want sex more than women. It is also a fact that many married women go off sex after a few years of being married.

But they still have sex for the sake of the marriage and of keeping their man happy. They just feign pleasure.

Some wives who have gone off it will show no interest in it, then their sex-starved hubbies will certainly begin to get P****d off.

i am not married but my sex life with my boyfriend was amazing for 5 and a half years. AND i want to stay with him just because of that even though it did not work out for other reasons!

The best answers i could give you is.. spice things up. Wear special things. use toys. role play.. etc...

whatever turns you on.

Sometimes sex drive goes down due to boredom.

You could also eat some aphrodisiacs..

hope this helps.

Sometimes my husband wants sex when I don't so he just jacks off. We don't really have opposite sex drives, but sometimes we want it at different times. So when one of us wants it and the other doesn't masturbation is a great help.

Yes, this is a huge problem for couples over time. And it is about so much more than just sex.

My husband (who had the higher drive) took it upon himself to help me identify my triggers and then to push them regularly. Now I think it might be questionable who's drive is higher.

this is a huge problem and the reason i don't have a problem with premarital sex. lack of sex can make a person feel insignificant and it's a terrible way to live. my husband and i have different sex drives and i have just learned to take care of myself.

communicating is the key, we dont all fancy sex at the same time so you have to respect it . i think the problems arise when you stop having it , or constantly have the problem of one does and the other doesnt. Its all about compromise.