dont want my "MIL" in my labor and delivery room..Am I being mean?

I feel for you hun! I really do. First of all, I hate to say it, but your husband needs to man up and cut the cord. First of all, you guys should NOT be giving her ANY money. Let her sort her own life out, she should not be taking advantage of you like that and your husband needs to tell her so. Secondly, he is the father but it is YOUR body on display in that room and he has no right to say his mom HAS to be there. I'd really talk this over with him, make sure you are on the same page, and then tell her together. If she doesn't like it too bad the nurses will bar her from entering, lol! Good luck and I am sorry you have such a poor MIL.

You are the one who will be giving birth, so the nurses will prioritise your wishes 1st, not your husbands. Stop lending her money, you have a baby on the way and need all the money for your little bundle of joy when they arrive, they don't come cheap.

You are right sleeping on left side is best for baby as the right side contains the liver so is slightly less desireable, being on back can be uncomfortable for most pregnant women as baby is laying directly on the big vein in part of your body which can cause you to wake up feeling a little faint or have nausea/indigestion.

Tell your husband if he dares to have the MIL in the room with you against your will you will have him chucked out of the room too! He should be supporting and respecting your wishes, not going against them!

You are the one naked and in pain. So it is your rules. You don't really need a reason. And no you are not being mean.

She can see the baby when you are the baby is born and you are decent. That is really the most important part anyway.

And yes the nurses will forbid whomever you don't want in the room. But you should tell her (or your husband) before just so there isn't any confusion.

Yes tell the doctor at one of your check ups that only your mother and your partner are allowed in the delivery room. They will put it in your chart. You can even tell them to tell your partner that only two people are allowed in. Your the one giving labor this is about you and your baby and no one else, not him or his mother. It has been proven that if a woman is stressed during labor she has a higher chance of needing an emergancy c-section.

This is your show and you get to decide who is going to be there.

I suggest that since this is plainly going to be an issue, that you tell your mom and mother in law that this will be a private moment that is open to only you and your husband

At the moment, you probably won't care if the entire Green Bay Packer's team is in the delivery room , but unless your husband is going to pass an orange through his "P" , you are the one who gets to chose who will be present, because it is you who are the one who is going to have to perform.

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no its not mean but its not fair to your husband if he wants his mom in there she should be in there just like your mom! but you should tell you husband to talk to his airhead mom, about the way she is!