For those who have cancer.?

I agree with Chemo Angel. Don't treat her like she is dying, treat her normally. Help her when she needs it and just be there. Most important of all LISTEN TO HER. Don't try and fix it for her, you can't, just listen when she wants to talk and accept that she knows what she wants and needs.

Best of luck to her, I know of many people in a similar position who are doing very well, don't give up.

I think alot of it depends on the person. Is your wife very open about her cancer or is she very private. I am a 6 year survivor and I was very open about it and would talk about it with anyone. It was kind of therapy for me. I have also known people who were very private and wouldn't talk and that made it hard to get through to them or comfort them. I also had a very aggressive cancer. I'm sure she feels like she is on a roller coaster ride that she can't get off of right now!...Very normal. Highs and lows. Alot of mixed feelings. I think the best thing as a spouse is to just tell her how much you love her and that together you will get through this. Be her BIGGEST supporter! Without the support and optimism of you she may feel very sad. Best of luck :)

The best thing he ever did was to treat me like I wasn't dying. That I was going to make it through this. He supported me 100 percent, took time off from work to take me back and forth to my doctor's appointments, and was very positive and optimistic. I will now say that I am a Breast Cancer Survivor.

Years ago, my Father was A Breast Cancer Patient. Stage 3.....He went through Chemo, Radiation, and Surgery...he is now alive, 15 years later. My Cousin has stage 4 Breast Cancer that has spread to her bone and lungs...she is doing great! Please keep positive thoughts surrounding her...that is what she needs the most. Support, and optimism.

My sister just died las week from stage 4 breast cancer at 39 years old. She wanted nothing but positive talk and did not want to talk about the cancer. Act like things are normal as much as possible.

Be with her,tell her we shall fight out it.Admiral