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Why am I angry all the time for no reason?
It may just be that I'm an asshole or possibly the fact that I've smoke pot for the past 3 years almost every day and haven't smoked in over a month. And it could be that I used to drink a lot along with smoking pot and haven't drank in over month as well. Or could it be that I have used tobacco every day of my life since like 6 years ago and haven't used tobacco in like 2 months. Or last but not least: could it be that I'm just broke right now and don't have a job and live with my parents at 19 and feel like I should be further along in life than this? I'm going to start college this fall and have a job interview in the new town where I'm starting school next week. But it seems like I'm too busy being mad all the time to get very excited about it... Have I just ruined all happiness for myself by drinking and smoking myself into this hell? Or will it get better once I start getting money again and regain my independence? Just wondering.. I need to know if I should seek out a shrink. Cuz I'm sick of this mindset that I've got going on.
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- 10 years agoFavorite Answer
It's great that you've stopped drinking and smoking, but you've got to stop telling yourself that you're mad all the time. I don't know you in person so I don't know if you need to see a therapist or anything like that, but if you think you should or that it will help, definitely do it because knowing that you need help and are willing to seek it is the first step to getting yourself out of the hole you're in.
Otherwise, try to go outside more, even if you don't feel like it or it's just a 20 minute walk. Go out with friends, spend a day or night somewhere fun. It's probably just built-up stress.
- ?Lv 610 years ago
View: http://ezinearticles.com/?Releasing-Yourself-From-... Other options: Take a couple of deep breaths; fill the lower part of your lungs first, THEN the chest. If you can't deal with it by using one of the techniques, such as counting backwards from 20, to 1, (and prevent you from allowing yourself to become angry, in the first place) it is important to express that anger appropriately, at the time, and to the person who caused it, if possible, or immediately afterwards. If not, perhaps by walking away later, and bellowing your rage and/or frustration. In some situations, such as work, or school, it might be better to cover your mouth with a cupped hand, bandanna/handkerchief, or use the crook of your elbow, to muffle the sound. Some people find that it helps to journal those thoughts, and emotions soon afterwards. Anger, which is repressed, rather than healthily expressed, tends to fester, and later may cause explosive fits of rage, or depression. Let yourself feel the burning energy of that anger, and visualise it, as vividly as possible, as a hot flame cleansing you. It can help to have someone you can talk to. For more physically inclined people, a punching bag, or hitting your pillow, can be an effective release mechanism: visualise, as vividly as you can, that you are striking back at the cause of that anger.
"But next time, when you get mad, just remember this quote: 'Those who anger you, conquer you.' It's basically saying that when you give someone the power to make you mad, or let it get to you, it's like they're controlling you. When I realized that, it made me mad, so I try to control my anger and not let people see it. You can still control your anger without being walked all over. You just have to draw a line." Try saying to yourself, in your mind: "I am fire! I am ice!". Repeat for as long as it takes for you to calm down sufficiently. Practice a relaxation method, daily, and when needed, such as: (free) http://www.drcoxconsulting.com/managing-stress.htm... or http://altmedicine.about.com/cs/mindbody/a/Meditat... or http://www.wikihow.com/Meditate or Yoga Nidra, (no flexibility required) at http://your-mental-health.8m.com/blank_11.html Qi Gong, Tai Chi, or regular yoga suits others better. Give the EFT a good tryout, to see if it helps you. It is free via the searchbar at www.mercola.com "EFT" & "EFT therapists" or www.tapping.com Professional is best. - There is a version for use in public places, (you could claim to have a headache, as you employ the acupressure massage/tapping your temples, but you would then be restricted to subvocalising: saying it to yourself in your mind: "Even though I sometimes make myself angry, I deeply and completely accept myself." These will enable you to emotionally centre yourself, when practiced regularly, and can also help you become a calmer, more self controlled person, who is less influenced by the behaviour of others.
Books: The Anger Workbook - a 13 step plan to help you. - Les Carter & Frank Minirth. - Minirth Meier Clinic Series, & Anger Management For Dummies. - W. Doyle. PhD. - Gentry, & "Feeling Good - the new mood therapy" by David D. Burns, (recommended) & Angry All The Time: An Emergency Guide to Anger Control by Ron Potter-Efron.Try your library, local bookstore, or www.amazon.com for these. Check out: http://www.mentalhealth.org.uk/campaigns%E2%80%A6 Hypnosis is merely a heightened state of suggestibility, in which you are better able to communicate with your subconscious mind. 85% of people are suggestible, to some degree, so you could either seek professional hypnotherapy, or more alternatives along such lines are at http://your-mental-health.8m.com/blank_17.html
- Anonymous10 years ago
Maybe you should get a girlfriend to make you happy, and stop all the drinking.