Can someone please talk to me?

I feel ya sister. I have so much empathy for you right now on so many levels. I was with a guy for 5 years and stuck it out to the bitter end even though I am pretty sure he was cheating on me.My self esteem has been shattered by many failed relationships where I chose to ignore the problems. I am a hopeless romantic and always want him to be "the one". So, anyways I do have some hope for you. I am 30 years old and a year ago I met the most wonderful man. He treats me like a princess, makes me laugh, knows when I need to cry or talk or be left alone. My little brother passed away 6 months ago and I don't know how I would have survived this grief without him by my side.

I had finally gotten to a place in my life where I wasn't looking for a guy to make me happy. I was perfectly content working and going to school and doing what I wanted. Actually I told my friends I was done with guys. They also told me my boyfriend picker was broken and I wasn't allowed to choose my next boyfriend. My friends are the ones who introduced us and I am so grateful for that.

I think just being confident and secure being your amazing self will help you attract a wonderful man who sees those great qualities about you. Sure, your friends may have moved on, but who knows how long their relationships will last. I was single almost 2 years before I met my amazing man. There is hope. Love will find you when the time is right. For now the most important love you need to worry about is you.

PS I also work as a CNA so mad props to you for doing such a hard job that takes so much heart.

I'm kinda in the same boat as you really. I actually had my first gf when I was 23 but it was by choice - I was waiting for (who I thought) was special and that lasted about a year before I realised it was far from special. I had an accident some years back now so I was unable to get back into my usual physical routine (gym and martial arts) because of a back injury. I ended up putting on a fair bit of weight because of this. It's only recently I have started on working on sorting myself out and lose weight but I am doing it for myself (and my health) first and foremost. To be honest I'd rather be hated for how I look than loved for it. Looks all fade eventually so if someone loves me I rather it's because they see who I am on the inside and I'm not the most greatest looking guy out there but even I think I'm not all that bad. :-/

Before guys like you, you've got to be able to like you as well. There's nothing wrong with you at all, it just seems the world is in demand for men and women who are decent, there's not that many out there so it'll take time. You will need to be patient and don't be afraid to be yourself. You will marry and have kids and such so feeling like none of that won't happen is very premature at this point. You've come out of a bad relationship not to mention a long term one so give yourself some breathing time too. I know it's annoying to hear it but things will all work out, just have faith in yourself and believe in yourself.

I am not qualified to help you with all that you are feeling. I can share one thing with you that may help. A Christian psychologist said the main cause of depression in women is not men, finances, family, but ...the lack of close female companionship. Men can only meet a fraction of your emotional needs. So many women, young and the not so young, put all their needs and emotions squarely on the man's shoulders. Even if he was a good man, he can't live up to this. At best, most men meet 50% of your emotional and social needs. The rest is through other friends. Don't put all your eggs, mates or friends or social or recreation, etc in one basket. If you don't have balance, then when one thing goes wrong, everything seems wrong. Try making deeper female friendships. Regain your confidence so you won't appear desperate. That scares the good men off.

I know how you feel girl...your older than me I'm only 14 and I'm high school but I think older than my age for starters never forget your beautiful and second if guys don't dig you forget them...I'm like you overweight but gorgeous I always think a guy will never like me but I know some day a guy will.don't worry you will find him he's out there some where...go out to different places you will never find him if you don't go out much..also well I bet your real pretty so I don't need to give you tips bout hair and stuff like that...anyways just talk more to guys be friendly forget the exs and start fresh...guys can be real picky but guys like girls with great attitude and who are down to earth so try hard and have fun don't waste your days being sad negativity on love and other stuff actually make things worse if you think positive things get better if your always negative your not letting good luck and positivity come into your life!!

i am 23 as well ^_^

and i started feeling this way when i was 15 or so probably

i really wanted to be loved and more than that i wanted to love someone.

you know that sweet attention from someone, all the friends in the world couldnt divert me from that unfinished feelings

the misery ended a few days after my 22nd birthday

it was like he was waiting for me to turn 22 and he just showed up.

i have a wonderful fiance now, just the kind of perfection i wanted

so things can change any moment

have hope.

and more importantly you dont sound whinny, you sound like a real sweet girl.

Didn't read the whole thing. But I know you are talking about a relationship. All I can say is let go n let God, Wait on God yo send that right person in your life.

good to know other people feel the same, although i'm a tad younger. all i can say is that, if i were able to, i would take a trip to somewhere beautiful to realize that there's more out there than all the sadness in my own life.

email me at alycia_garcia@hotmail.com its my other email besides this one ??

im good at giving advice im also kinda blind and could barley read all that without getting dizzy so if you e mail me in smaller sentences you know i could probably help ok pinky promise , and sorry if that sounded rude but that's not what i meant k : )