Advice please? i got aform of autism?

No, it's not always high-functioning.

We vary enormously, and it's a mistake to simply think of Asperger's syndrome as the mildest part of the autistic spectrum.

It may or may not be, depending on the individual.

One critical trait might make all the difference: for example having no sense of danger, which is a possibility. That would instantly have a major effect on the chances of independent living, even if many other skills and abilities were good.

Or a very marked sensitivity to touch, such that wearing clothes was almost intolerable...

We vary: I've got a degree, have had a professional career, and have lived independently in my own house for many years.

But alone: while I have very good language and cognition skills (I can think like a shark can swim), I have definite blind-spots on emotions and relationships. I'm still trying to work out what "love" is. I have no instinctive answer or internal reference.

But we vary: someone with far more difficulty with speech might have far better instincts on emotions...

Being sociable is, I'm afraid, not a thing of a few hints, tips or tricks.

It's more like a subject to be studied academically, like a foreign language.

Very much like a foreign language, a lot of the time.

There are things like conversational skills, and learning to read gesture and body language, but there are also major world-view and lifestyle issues.

Is it about conforming, and trying as hard as possible to be "normal"?

Or about working out what suits you, and finding the right niche environments where you are happy and relaxed, and therefore more sociable?

(To heck what most people think of such behaviour: you are not "most people".)

I spent years trying to do the first, before I realised I should be doing more of the second,

But we vary.

For some of us starting with a special interest or hobby group is a better route than trying to join in with what seems to be the mainstream idea of "fun". With the former a common interest and topic of conversation is a given from the outset. Volunteering or charity work can function in a similar way.

I can "do social" very well when I choose to or have to, but that's more on my terms. It's not a submission to conformity in the hope of being accepted by the mainstream.

It is Autism without speech or cognitive impairment. It is generally high functioning. There are special social skills classes for people with high functioning Autism. I have attended one and it was quite enlightening. There are also books on this topic.

Quiz: http://www.rdos.net/eng/ See http://myweb.usf.edu/~begeiger/as-symptoms.html & http://www.aspergers.com/ & http://www.udel.edu/bkirby/asperger/support.html & http://www.aspergerssociety.org/index20cause.htm?g... & http://www.tonyattwood.com.au/links.html There are courses, where Aspies are taught the interpretation of social cues, and behaviour appropriate to certain circumstances. Google: "asperger's syndrome; training courses (your location)" There are also books on social skills; Social Skills Training for Children and Adolescents with Asperger Syndrome and Social-Communications Problems by Jed Baker, & "People Skills," written by Robert Bolton, Ph.D. The book help will help with communication in all areas. It helps when you have anxiety in "people" situations. Others are: Asperger's From the Inside Out: A Supportive and Practical Guide for Anyone with Asperger's Syndrome by Michael John Carley and Ed.D., Peter F. Gerhardt, & The Complete Guide to Asperger's Syndrome by Tony Attwood, & The OASIS Guide to Asperger Syndrome: Completely Revised and Updated: Advice, Support, Insight, and Inspiration by Patricia Romanowski, & Look Me in the Eye: My Life with Asperger's, & The ABCs of Life : Lesson One: The Skills We All Need but Were Never Taught, by Jon Oliver and Michael Ryan, & The Social Work Skills Workbook by Barry Cournoyer, & Conversationally Speaking : Tested New Ways to Increase Your Personal and Social Effectiveness by Alan Garner.

Ask at your bookstore, or go to www.amazon.com If you have difficulty looking people in the eye, try focusing on the bridge of their nose, for 2 - 3 seconds only (or you may be thought to be staring, or, at the very least, rude) then look away for 5 - 10 seconds, then repeat. Hypnosis is merely a heightened state of suggestibility, in which you are better able to communicate with your subconscious mind. 85% of people are suggestible, to some degree, so you could either preferably seek professional hypnotherapy. If not an option, hypnosisdownloads.com has ones on: making eye contact & conversation starter, and: overcome shyness and social anxiety & meeting people, etc. Because of their borderline obsessive interests, and lack of social skills, many Aspies stay indoors a great deal, and don't get sufficient daily exposure to sunlight to produce adequate levels of vitamin D3.

A deficiency in this very important vitamin can lead to depression, as can the social exclusion, and sometimes even bullying (see http://your-mental-health.weebly.com/1.html and page B) that they experience. Take at least 4 Omega 3 fish oil supplements, daily: (certified free of mercury) it is best if consumed with an antioxidant, such as an orange, or its FRESHLY SQUEEZED juice. If vitamin E is added, it should be certified as being 100% from natural sources, or it may be synthetic: avoid it! In the winter months, if not getting sufficient daily exposure to strong light, see www.mercola.com SEARCHBAR: enter: "vitamin D3".

Go to a doctor and ask for a 25(OH)D, also called 25-hydroxyvitamin D, blood test. When you get the results, don’t follow the typical “normal” reference range, as these are too low. The OPTIMAL value that you’re looking for is 45-52 ng/ml (115-128 nmol/l)". The company which tests your levels has to be one of those using the correct form of test, and this topic is addressed via the searchbar at Mercola.com - "vitamin D3; testing". See http://drbenkim.com/vitamin-d-facts.htm & http://articles.mercola.com/sites/articles/archive...