im just so disgusted that he used to be a former swinger?

2 be honeeeessst! why r u lowering ur standards over 1 good quality that he has remember thats only 1! being critical these days you have to and check out the family. u can be his friend but stick to your limitations never stoop low cause he is nice. ****! everybody nice when they want somthn. FEEL ME!

Honestly, I don't think you're being too judgmental or critical, and you are certainly not a bad person for having those feelings towards him.

There's a lot to think about. On one hand, this guy is really nice and there's a chance that he has changed. On another hand, there's a saying that goes "once a cheater, always a cheater." If this man admitted to cheating on past significant others, he'll probably do it again. Also, if the two of you have sexual relationship, you have to realize that you are not only sleeping with him, but you are pretty much sleeping with everyone he has slept with and you can pick up all kinds of nasty diseases. Obviously, that's true for anyone in a sexual relationships, but the fact that he was a swinger greatly increases the chance that you will contract an STD. I hate to say it, but he could be using you for sex.

Trust me when I say that there are a lot of guys out there that are really nice but don't have a strong sexual past. A lot of people used to tell me that; I didn't believe them and almost gave up on finding a nice guy, but then I met my super sweet, modest fiance. :)

Obviously, this decision is yours, but I hope my advice helped! Good luck with whatever you decide!

In this matter you're neither critical, nor bad, you are just being cautious and it is good.

My advice for you is, be reluctant for sex kisses and so on for some times. If he is still a player, he will dump you, but if he stays, tries his best for you, and always tries to be up to the level, he has changed, for you maybe.

Everyone has a bad past, but we can always change, don't think that a cheater can't change. A cheater/player gets played at some point in life too. That is when they regret it all and change for the better.

I don't think so. He admits to being a bad person in the past - how do you know he's changed??????

That would be my worry.

Nah, you're fine. get rid of him. A leopard doesn't change his spots. Or should I say, A "Chea-tah" doesn't change his spots

Unless he's really changed, I say dump him.