Does a marraige counselor have a perfect marraige?

No.

Remember, it take TWO PEOPLE to make a marriage. One of them may be extremely intelligent and well trained. The OTHER might be a complete tird.

The goal of counseling is to give you insight and methods to use to stop your problems and to make your life better. But counseling WILL NOT work if BOTH of you don't work AT it.

Same with his/her marriage. if THEIR partner is a tird, then their marriage may not be perfect. that DOES NOT mean that their advice is poor, it just means that their partner is not as "workable" as the two of YOU should be.

AND -- there is no such thing as a "perfect" marriage. A REALLY GOOD marriage is based on love, respect, forgiveness, and "give and take". you WILL NOT always agree with your partner, and there is no reason to expect that you will. What is IMPORTANT is that you learn to fight FAIRLY and CIVILLY, without anger, name calling, mud slinging, recalling past sins, and blame shifting. it is not that you have NO fights or disagreements, but it is all about how you HANDLE THEM when they occur.

Again, it takes TWO to make a marriage, and anyone can simply ignore even the most excellent advice.

my counselor friend is just like you and i...like...

when his mother dies he cried

when his kid wrecked his porsh he was angry and pissed...but concerned for his son and then sit new limits...

he raised his voice and yelled at his neighbor when his wife left him for the neighbor...he moved..she got the house he was not happy about that

though all this he worked and never missed a day...i once asked how do you guide others life...he said he didn't he just listened and then they decided what to do....i did not do anything but listen and that is what i was trained to do...their decision..to act just takes on new meaning...

in life nothing is perfect

I know of a marriage counselor that got a divorce. Does that answer your question?